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I have been with my boyfriend since a year and 3 months. Why our relationship tends to be difficult at times, is the distance between us, seeing as we skype everyday, with 10, 000 km between us (and a 3 and a half hour difference).
I love the boy very dearly and am very vocal about it. Unfortunately, he isn't. Often times, I feel like I need to hear compliments or sweet words to feel loved and to be able to go to sleep happily. I know relationships don't revolve only around that, but fact is, that IS all we have. Well, except for jokes, understanding and all the basic stuff (that don't get me wrong, I treasure dearly). But as a girl with past relationships (and a broken heart), I know what I want from a man. And HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THAT. First, I tried hinting at it, but he ignored that. Since we are very honest to one another, I told him flat out, say these things to me. I feel happy then. He didn't do it. Then, I made the mistake of yelling at him. All the more, he didn't do it. So then I left it, and all he does nowadays, is her plays with his phone and plays with something or another and then just rattles off an: 'iloveyouyourebeautiful/cute'. -that's it. When I have just earlier, told him how much I adore his smile, the way he looks ble ble- all the cheese of the world.
Fact is, we have had a fight, were I told him to say these things to me (once again) and he compared it to me not having had UNPROTECTED SEX. -he says if I want that, then he wants UNPROTECTED. -I said flat out: NO, because I am scared. He said I'm being silly. -I decided to teach him a 'lesson' and didn't speak to him for 3 days. Finally, today he apologized many times via email. So I came to him on skype. -After a while of him only picking fights with me, instead of apologizing, he told me that he apologized only in a 'MOMENT OF WEAKNESS'. One lead to another, and I told him, how this means so much to me, for the millionth time. He just stared and said, that what I want is 'STUPID'. I yelled at him. And I just looked all shocked. All energy was drained out of me. What more can I tell this boy?
Finally, it all ended with all my emotions coming gushing out. All the times I chases after him, all the times I have apologized for the smallest of things, when he can't respect this ONE wish.
It all came out in a long sentence. 'I HATE YOU, I HATE YOU, I HATE YOU. YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT ME. -You BROKE MY HEART'.
-While the hating part is a lie, the heart breaking isn't. I feel ridiculous. Also, I know that most girls would have dumped a boy for verbally forcing them into unsafe sex... But on the other hand, I know he loves me. -what now? (link)
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ok well ur situation is not uncommon but i have never been in such a situation however i can give some advice from the relationship im in now. me and my boyfriend are always texting eachother and talking sweet i also see him everyday at school like i have since kinder. we have now been dating for 3 years and he is the mushy lovey one not me. if he wasent though our relationship may not work. why? because love is not 1 sided its 2 sided i love him very much and he knows it so thats his way of showing me that he loves me. but if you keep telling him and he yells at you and talks about unprotected sex which i would be very scared of too since me and my boyfriend havent even kissed yet. so take a step back and say to yourself if a friend was in a position like yours, so your feelings wont get in the way, what would u tell her to do. so think about that and get to know the situation better instead of letting your feelings for him get in the way. I HOPE THIS HELPS! -with lots of love and compassion for u~ Katie
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