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I am a law graduate and a stenographer working in the Nigerian Judiciary.
I am very humble, obedient, observant and cool minded.
I grew up in one of the most rugged city in the world and attended the most rugged high school in the most rugged town.
So I have seen it all and I learnt so many cos my family gave me the good foundation.
Bring on the question.

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Hi, so I'm in highschool and I have noticed this guy looking at me often. Like, very often. I talked to my sister about this and she said that he is a nice guy and we are acquaintanced. I catch his eyes literally following me everywhere and I am not sure if he finds me pretty or not. We were in class and I caught him staring at me and once I looked up to stare back he quickly averted his eyes. Another time, this week, he was paying for his lunch and he looked back as if searching for someone and he looked at me. That's not the first time he's done that. we talked while getting food. This week, he'd look at me frequently again. I was in the line to get food and he was in the line to pay and he looked as if he was searching for someone and he was looking directly at me and I'm not sure if he was searching for someone else or if it was actually me. I like him and I'm not sure if this could mean something. If I added all the details it would take forever to read this. If you want more information and can try to contact me, if I can answer after the quesiton.

You really like him? Then walk up to him and express your feelings to him. Could be that he is shy to talk to you so if you are not the shy type, help him out.
If its not what he wants, both of you can become just friends and work it out.

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I am a 19yo female from Australia. I have been in a relationships or two years with a guy in the US. We have never met (only Skype video calls and messaging). I want to go and see him, but he fears the fact of me having to leave and come home again.He believes it will ruin things between us. I have tried everything to get his head around the whole idea, but he won't have a piece of it. What should I do? Do I just surprise show up for a month, or do I just stay away? I'm going insane not having him around. Any advice would be amazing. Thank you so much x

You've got a lot of good and lovely answers and I do not wanna add to what has been said.
All I wanna add is to point out a salient point based on my experience as a Nigerian.
Are you sure this guy is for real? How did you conclude he is in US? You may be a future victim of scam cos these yahoo yahoo boys (as we call them here in Nigeria) can really take their time in getting your heart to control your head.
Be cautious and make sure you are dealing with a real American.

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i want to have sex or be raped but i am only 11 and a girl!!

Like many answers here, I believe you do not want to be raped or may be you do not really understand what rape actually is.
In anyway do know what rape actually is and you really want to be raped, I wanna let you know that most fantasies we do have are not worth the time we use in planning it. Go through your young life and check most of your fantasies that have come true. Didn't you regret any?
Dear sex itself is for matured mind while no one wants his/her enemy to be raped. Find something to keep your mind busy and forget the thought of being raped.

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I really like this guy, but he is always talking to his friends and I have only had a conversation with him a couple times! I am also really shy and don't like going up to his group because I feel intimidated by it. What should I do? By the way I am a female and 13 and liked him for a year.

Honestly the first thing you have to overcome is being shy. Do you wanna continue like that all ya life? At 13 it will be easier for you to fight shyness than when you are 18. I wanna put it to you as the first option. If the crush is serious, deep in you, you will find that courage and walk up to him no matter how many people are with him. Love can make us do things we ordinarily wouldn't have done so let your crush on him act as a spur for you to overcome shyness.
If you still feel you can't overcome shyness for now, then write a small note telling him you wanna talk to him alone, then find a way to pass it to him. You can have a venue pre-arranged. On the alternative get a friend you trust to help you draw his attention to you.
Finally do take your studies serious.

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I have loved this guy for 6 years now. I dated him for the first 3 of those.
So things ended a long time ago. They ended on a good note, but with good reasons.
We said we'd be friends, but we very seldom communicate.
We have moved on since then, but we aren't over each other. We recently talked about it, why are we not together?
And its true that we aren't compatible, we drive each other crazy.

I know being apart is for the best, but it still hurts.
How do I stop missing him?

Its not always easy getting someone we truly desire out of our system. It happened to me and this is how I solved it.
I had an ex who I found it difficult to get out of my system and knowing that we can't be together, I had to go into a new relationship .
When I got into the new relationship, I did not stop there. I went ahead and told her what I am still feeling for my ex and the things that made me feel that way for her. She was an understanding babe and before I knew it, she started doing the things I missed in my ex. Today we are happily married.
The summary of the whole thing is:
1. Try and go into a new relationship with and understanding guy.
2. Be open to him and tell him why the crush on your ex.
3. Both of you can work out a way to deal with it.

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