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i am 15/m and i am completely in love with this girl we'll call her Ally she is 15 as well...and we have been dating for three months but it seems like years...we are both so close to eachother and we love eachother so much...now we want to have a baby....i know we are 15 but we want one....we have been talking about it for a while now..and we feel like we are ready like we have been doing a lot of research....but how do we tell our parent that we wanted one and it wasnt a mistake? (link)
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When you say "wanted one" and "it wasn't a mistake" past tense, does that mean that she is already pregnant? If she is, Congrats to you both. I pray that you both can handle the challenges ahead to the best of your ability.
However, If she isn't pregnant, is she prepared to drop out of school now? A baby can't be left at home alone during the day, and day care is very expensive. Since I'm on the topic, have you two researched costs of a baby? The food, clothes, toys, diapers... everything? And have you really considered what it means to be raising a child? You are bringing a human being into the world, and will be caring for the child for the next 18+ years of his/her life? Are you ready to raise a child when you're both children yourselves? Where will you two live? Together? thats another expense. How will you get the necessary money for all of this? I would encourage you to reconsider what a huge responsibility this is.
However, wether she is already pregnant, or you both are set in your ways, you will have to tell your parents. They will likely be angry, as much of the financial burden will most certainly fall upon them, and they were not consulted in the matter. And they will be worried about you. Parenthood is difficult, and at a younger age especially. I would recommend telling them flat out. Then I would explain how you are going to make everything work out. and i mean everything. explain to them how you plan to raise this child yourself. Show them all of this research that you have done, and explain how this is affecting your life and should not directly impact theirs.
Whatever the outcome of this, Good luck, and God bless.
~Courtney
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