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Alright, a bit more of an adult focused one, but I need some outside opinions.

So, my girlfriend is chronically ill. Not really sick, theres just always something wrong with her. She has migraines (she says, they dont seem to affect anything but her sex drive) she has body aches, she gets tired, she ________. Insert anything under the sun for the blank that doesnt require a doctor.

She used to have a sex drive that outstripped mine. Now, I'm lucky if we have sex once a week.

I don't know what to do about it. I used to be able to climb into bed with her, and seduce her. Now, she either ignores or rebuffs all the advances I make, and I only actually get to have sex when she is horny enough that she makes an advance. Basically, if she isnt in the mood, there is nothing I can do to get her that way. The only thing she wants constantly is non sexual physical affection, to the point that I feel used by her. I feel like a convenient toy that takes care of her needs whenever she has them, and the rest of the time she rolls over and pretty much ignores me.

Perhaps its selfish of me, but this is a big problem, on top of a bunch of other problems. Big enough that if it continues I am going to leave her over it.

I just need some outside perspectives. I can't handle being in a relationship with a girl who seems to have lost complete interest in sex. Its been going on for months, since last summer basically. She gets short bursts of horny for about 2 hours every few weeks, and the rest of the time I feel like we are married with kids and careers, when we are students with a decent amount of time on our hands.

alright, i understand your problem i wouldnt like no sex either haha. well first off she isnt always sick she is just making excuses, you need to sit and talk to her not like fuck you im done were not sexual more like .. babe look.. it may not be a big deal to you and it may be nice being able to get it whenever your in the mood but its a 2 way street, not only you can make the decision you used to be wicked into me what are you not now? sex is a common thing in relationships everyone has it everyone does it til usually their wicked old and cant move anymore she needs to see that she needs to stop thinking she is sick cause its all in her head. she could easily get her sexstrive back if she thought she had one she just dont think , i think you just need to take action and say something if she freaks out ignore it and walk away and she understands then hopefully it gets fixed. hope i could help!

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my boyfriend and i had really bad sex about three days ago.
he says he doesn't care and that it's okay, but i can tell that he's a little dissapointed.
any ideas on what i can do to make things better?

girly, you shouldnt need to make things better, it was bad once he can deal lol. dont think you gotta better yourself cause it was bad a one time i had bad sex the other day too and if he didnt like it well thats too bad cause we were giving it up to them. sometimes people got bad days and some days can be good for them dont worry girl. :)

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