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Hey jax,
I am soooo confused!! i need your help! well you see there is this one guy that people have always said i should go out with, and the only thing that was stopping me was that i thought it would ruin our friendship, and now that i am closer to him then ever i want to be with him even more. I am just to scared that it would be akward between us..& it gets worse.. theres another guy that i have liked for the longest time. back and forth , its really anoying actually but ne way hes always been there two and both of these guys are awesome and they both dont deserved to get hurt WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?!?!?!!?!?!

All i can say to you is to follow your heart .. you can't listen to what other people tell you when they tell you to go out with one guy or the other.. just think of which guy means more to you and would treat you better for sure.. Yoiur heart is talking and you need to listen .. who do you see yourself with in 10 years? .. but be very careful not to ruin what you have already with either of them .. however don't hold back with guy #1 because if he means that much to you then don't worry about your friendship because you will find yourself askin wut if? and thats worse.. all i can really say is for you not to listen to other people and listen to yourself .. And see who would fight for you more .. but you can't worry about hurting them becasue in the end you have to choose and you should choose who you want not the one you feel sorry for .. Hope i helped

Jackie

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Hey jackie! You probably wont know who this is..but okay so like right after we came back from thanksgiving break i heard this guy in our school liked me..and i was a little hesitant because hes kinda shy..and since in skool he knew that i knew he liked me he would like try n avoid me like he would always be like 10 feet away with me..(like in the classes i had with him) also he would never ever make eye contact with me or anything like that...and i was like uuhh okay? and before like he even started like ignoring me we were freinds but now that he does like me he wont even talk to me..so thats when i made the decision that i needed more time to think about going out with him or not..and then like 1 week later i was like yea i do like him ( because after awhile he started talking to me agian n w.e) so i started likeing him and then right when he finds out i like him he doesnt like me and he likes some other girl....i mean i was like okay what the hell..but i guess i have to respect that..and now some of his friends are telling me that he likes me and then some are telling me that he doesnt...and im like really close to just be like w/e....so should i just give it up or just wait some more..??
Frustrated and confused!~

Frustrated and confused!~
Since you don't have a solid "he doesn't like you" i think that you need to wait a little longer. Now what i am going to say is don't have the reason your like him be because he likes you. Like who you want when your heart tells you. Just because he doesn't like you doesn't mean you give up because you need to listen to your heart and not block it out b/c hes cunfuseing you .. if you truley like him keep going for it however if you don't think you really like him then just move on. Maybe you should talk to him yourself. I know that he sounds like a shy boy but that means that you have to be outgoing enough and approach him because he is too shy to go up to you. The girls have to make the move alot thats just how it is .. if you don't ask him yourself you will never know for sure!! So listen to your heart and don't ever give up untill you heart is ready too ok

Hope i helped
.:Jackie:.

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Jackie baby i love you!this is gunna be long.
okay so there is this girl.again.and again.and again and agian two more times.you know who i am.i hurt her a while ago and im truely sorry for that.ilove her with all my heart and would give anything to be with her.like the night of the mansons party i was holding her...it was freezing,it was wet,she had one of my shoes on,stefan was running around drunk and kicking his shoes into trees.i didnt want to let go.i could have stayed there forever. i told her that i did some stuff with some ppl and she got al wierd about it.we werent going out or anything...it was while she had a bf and that kinda makes me mad but il forget about it.i still want to go out with her.what do i do now?

Ok well maybe she is upset that u did stuff with other people becasue you are always saying you lover her but then you go and do that stuff with other people which makes her doubt it when you say you love her even though i know you really do .. I know she had a boyfriend but you still dont tell someone you love them and then go and do shit with other people thats maybe why she was upset .. now maybe if you just forget about it like you say you will she will to and you guys can just move on and forget about that however then the fact that you told her wut you did instead of hiding it was good too .. But like i have said before you just need to give her sometime she needs to realize that you are serious this time maybe you should stop flirting with other girls and give her your all because if you do then she will know just how much you care about her and hopfully will feel the same otherwise don't hold back .. do everything you can for her and make her feel special and wanted to make up for your mistakes everyone makes mistakes so you need to prove that your serious this time adn do everything you can for she needs you ..

Jackie

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JACKIE-
lol you know me im just not gunna say who it is. wellll. okay i like someone and ive liked them for two years, it adds up to. and well they sorta hint they like me but then again they are like no sorry i dun like you. So ya i dunno. Should i keep liking them.. cuz its my best guy friend. but then again should i not give up because i seriously love this kid.
- Thanks!

As hard as it is for me to say this it takes 2 to make a relationship work. Now i see that you are cunfused about how they feels about you and i think the best thing to do is ask them directly "Do you have any feelings for me .. more then a friend" Ask them when it is just you two because then you know that what ever answer you get is true .. However what ever you do .. don't say anything that you will regret and will ruin your friendship b/c i know thats the last thing you would want .. you just have to respect whatever answer he gives you .. I can't tell you if you should give up or not b/c honestly thats not something you can deside your heart feels the way it wants and alot of times you just cant control that so if you end up likeing him for a while more then theres really nothing you can do however you can try to set a new focuz for relationship and see where that takes you

Hope i helped
Jackie

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Hey Jax,
okay well there's this guy.. and I really do love him but, theres this problem.. he hurt me pretty bad a long time ago. And I just can't seem to get over that, and that's keeping me from going out with him. I guess I cant get myself to trust him again. And at the same time he is always doing things with other girls which makes me question if i really should trust him again? I dont know what to do anymore, because I do like him. And i'm thinking about him constantly. Everything I do I'm always thinking about him?! It's so confusing! please help!!! & i think you know who this is =)

All that i can tell you is follow your heart .. Love hurts as we all know but you if you trulry
LOVE him the risk is well worth taken .. If you can't stop think about him it means somthing it really does and i know it may be hard to trust him again but like i said sumtimes you just gotta take a risk b/c the past is the past and there is nothing you can do to change that except make up for it now. Then you should let him know that if you do deside to go out with him then your not shareing him tell him your not gunna take his bullshit this time and watch him flirt with other girls.. if you go out with him though you wont have to fear when he flirts with other girls because you willl know "He's MINE!" My best advie is follow your heart and not your head .. hope i helped
Jackie

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Hey Jax...

There's this guy I've gone out with like a jillion times and he says he still likes me and wants to go out, but he doesn't wanna tell people. I'm sure you know who I am now, but anyway, what am I supposed to do? He's like so pissing me off, because I told him that I don't do the whole secret deal and I know his friends don't like me and I don't want him to have to take shit from them or anything, plus I hardly date as it is but I don't want to go out with him and then break up for some dumb reason. So what should I do, and how can I tell if he really likes me or just wants a piece of ass?

Ok well first of all is he wants yo keep you a "secret" well thats shit n u shoiuld not take that .. You deserve a person that wants to show you off to the world and is not embarresed for some god knows what reason. I would personally never EVER go out with a guy that wants to hide it because that is no relationship and its like starting a relationship on a lie .. which can not be good.. now i am not here to tell you wheather to go out with him or not ..but i would say that he does really like you just by wanteing to go out with you because if he didn't really like you and it was a joke then why would he care if it was hidden or not .. because everyone would know it was a joke .. ? Next if you do deside to go out with him ( strongly not reccomended) then you just need to be yourself thats the best advice have becasue seriously if you are yourself and he wants to break with you than atleast he broke up with you for who you are and is not staying with you for who your not.. that is a way not to break up for dumb reasons .. And maybe let somethings slide everyonce and a while i know it is hard but remember no one is perfect .. everibe has flaws .. and i don't he think he thinks your a piece of ass beacuase why choose you there has to be some kind of reason because why wouldn't he pick 1 out of the other 150 or wutever girls in school? however you shouldn't make him hide you because thats just not right and it does mean that he is embarresed about something for some reason maybe it is because his friends dont like you but that is no reason to hide you he should be proud .. HOpe i helped !!!

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Jackie..okay you see i like this girl...well i love her and ive gone out with her like 5 times...i think you know who i am now and who im talking about so yea...i love her and you say she likes me and she said that too...so i was wondering what i should do..i love her so much and she says she doesnt want to go out with me....i wanna cry..im jp.i want to go out with her again and keep it that way without screwing up.....i love you!

Well i do kno who this is LoL and let me jsut say i think you guys should go out with to and "she" is just stupid! but anyways you need to tell her just how much you care about her! and MEAN IT!! don't just say yeah i love you! Tell her sencerley everything about how you are feeling. But before you go out with her you need to spend sometimes with her to show her that you wont hurt her again or screw things up .. if yoiu truely love her you will give it time to work and not say you need her now! because you won't get her now .. just wait and give her sometime to trust you again but spend that time wisely and carfully making sure you won't hurt her. then if you guys do go out just do what comes naturally don't try so hard to impress her or your friends by not being with her .. just be yourself and make sure you think about her feeling sometimes and not just your own .. Babe just give it time don't rush things .. Ilove you too
.:Jackie:.

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What do you do if someone loves you but you only wanna stay friends?

If someone loves you and you don't feel the same then you need to confront them right away and tell them you just want to be friends. If you don't tell them tha nyou will be leading them on. No one likes to be leaded on because it hurts so just tell this person you charish your friendship but thats all you feel. If you wait to long that person may get hurt and it could possibly ruin the friendship you have so you should get on it and tell them. I know it is tough but you need to be honest so no one gets seriously hurt :) that is kind of hard to deal with but i hope i helped
love
Jackie

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hey jackie... well see i like this guy..but he is a total flirt and he told people he lyked me nd then goes and flirts with other girls..and he'll lead u on and not ask u out..and wen i walk past him in school he talks to the people im walking with and pays no attention to me!! i jus don't wut to do and i have lyked him for a while ! wut should i do? how should i get him to notice me!.?.!.?

_confused_

Confused~

Ok well i've seen this alot and even done it myself. Perhaps the reason he avoids you is because he know you know he likes you and the fact that you dont talk to him he thinks you don't like him which makes him kind of embarresed. He will talk to your friends becasue he wants to get close to you but is too scared to talk to you himself. Maybe you should Talk to him first that way you can both connect and get to know eachother more and both of you wont be so shy. than have your best friend or even yourself ask him if he really does like you because you can always count on a best friend to tell you the truth. then once you know tell him you like him because if you don't nothing could possibly happen. That way if he does like you you wont have to worry when he flirts with other girls because you know that he likes you!! :) hope i helped
.:Jackie:.

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What do you do when your in love with this perfect guy and he flirts with you ...but then he will turn around and flirt with a diffrent girl so basically i have two questions how do i get him to like me ? and how do i know if he likes me at all?
im 14 and a female

Well let me admit that is something that is hard to deal with. My best advice to you is to tell him that you like him. I know that is hard but if you think about it, it can't hurt. If he says he doesn't like you back then well, atleast you know so you can move on. If he says he does like you Then you guys can start a great relationship. And i say by the fact that he does flirt with you you have a pretty good chance that he likes you back. You just have to ignore the fact that he flirts with other girls because all guys are like that .. i say just go for it :)

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