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My name is Alyssa. People usually end up calling me Ali. Whatever works for you, works for me. I'm a pretty ordinary 15 year old. I havent really found my "hidden talent" yet, but most people tell me that i give good-working advice. I just moved from Wisconsin to Chicago around four months ago. I've had to adjust to alot of things in my life. I hate getting pity. I love to take hikes! My goal is to basically help young African children! I'm a very nice person, and I usually look @ the bright side with things. I live by the band incubus. I've went to 17 of their concerts (: Ask me anything, anytime. Just dont bother me or waste my time. Have a great day.

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Well im 17 and female, I split up with my ex 6 months ago, tried dating other guys but I dont have the feelings for them like a do for my ex!
Everytime I see him my feelings become stronger. I tried tellin him how i felt but he wasnt interested! We still see each other and speak as friends! Recently he has started taking driving lessons and he told me I would be the first person he would take out in his car, does he means as friends? or is he flirting??
I get the feeling his is regreting us spliting up, should I tell him again how I feel? Or just leave things as they are?

This situation is so common and can be easily answered.

For one, when he said that driving in his car comment - I think it was definately in a flirty way. If not, then he was trying to get you to hangout w/ him!

For two, never leave things as they are. If you want this bad enough, you'll do whatever it takes and put as much effort into getting him back as you can. People that just watch life pass them aren't helping themselves.

For three, just talk to him. Thats the simplest way where you can tell him exactly how you feel. Since its face to face, it'll sound way more sincere and honest. Make sure to include the times you had to together that really made you fall in love with him. That way, he'll really know where you are coming from.

Hope this helped.

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Im going to a new highschool this year, and ive met people and stuff, but i havent met many guys. Theres a couple guys who are really nice and I know barely, and I'd like to get to know them better. I'd also like to meet more guys.Can anyone help me?

go to parties, football games, & social events
of any kinds. there are guys everywhere around you. you just have to go to the right places (:

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I found out my wife is cheating on me and she is pregnant with this other guys baby whats the most worst way to get back at her? And trust me she deserves it.

Set her up, but dont do any harm to her. People make huge mistakes. But you can set her up, and make her look like a complete idiot by maybe you catching her with the other guy. Make a huge scene about it and embarrass her pretty bad.

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Hes a jerk, hes a player, and i can't get him out of my head.

we knew eachother in school kind of, like he had a gf and he'd still smile and once asked me for my # but they were on the outs anyway. so during regents week we hung out a couple times & he asked me out like two days before i left for vacation and like the 3rd day i got there my friend saw that he put on his myspace i love "so & so". so i ignored him for like two days and we broke it off because it seemed like he was cheating cause he changed his status back to single and all that. i promised him i'd go back out with him when school started if he remained single through out the summer to show that he wanted to be with me. he didn't, and he still apparently REALLY wants to go out with me.

its just all of my friends hate him, my family and i'm almost sure he cheated because when i came back he was going out with the girl, and he still lies to me about it.

the thing is, hes gorgeous.
and when i was with him, he'd make me feel amazing, and special with cute txt messages.

honestly, i know he'll hurt me bad again, because hes just that type of person but i still want to go out with him. i'm just an idiot. i already know.

You already know the answer, hun.
Dont go out with him. He's obviously playing you, and the only person it's hurting it you!

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hi.. does anyone know of ways to please my boyfriend? i want to blow his mind tonight.

Sexual ways?
Check google (;

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ok well i'm gonna try to help my guy friend get some girls...first i want him to watch some of the vh1 pickup artist shows...then at a football game try to approach a girl and get her # or whatever...what else can i do to help him out?

Tell him to attend parties. There are always varieties of girls there (;

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17/m


Ok, so i have a problem with girls when it comes to hooking up. Sure i can talk to girl all night, say at a party. I have no problem with talking and flirting, but i can never seem to take the next step and hook up. what do i do

I agree with the answer down there, but sometimes girls are just as hesitant as guys are about hooking up. So dont always wait for them, because it might not happen. I dont know if you are scared or just a little shy. Either way, you need to just realize that hook ups arent that big of a deal depending on which hoop up you are talking about. If its just making out or sumthing, dont even worry. Just lead her onto the couch and do it. People have a lot of will power when they want to, use yours!

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Ok,
So theres this girl and I really really like her, we're good friends and she tells me everything, and we're always having a laugh, I just don't know weather she likes me and if she doesn't I don't want to ruin my friendship with her.
How do I find out weather she likes me too?
And if I do find out she has feelings for me
How do I ask her out?

Thanks In Advance =]

Well since you definately dont want to ruin a perfectly good frindship, have a friend ask her if she digs you (: It'll seem just a simple question then if you asked didnt ask it. If she likes you, she'll stare at you, always try to talk to you, tell you everything, flirt with you, and hug you! Dont ask her out immediately either if it turns out she does like you. Make sure, you give her a few more signs that you like her and then ask her(: Trust me, it'll work.

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Okay, so I bet you've heard the "So, I like this guy" story a lot... I am just so confused right now that I need your advice.

Okay, so there's a guy that I really like; he's really nice, sweet, funny, and we share a lot of the same interests. We flirt with each other sometimes, but that's only in school, and school doesn't start for about a week or so.

Well, anyways, he's one of my friends on MySpace, and he took some of these quizzes about me on my profile to see how much he knew about me, and he only got 30% and 20%, and I took his quiz and I gotta 60%!

Anyways, I commented on his profile, "Hey, what's up? How's summer treating you? Or, in this case, what's left of it... :S c/b"

And he responds to mostly everyone else's comments, except for mine. :(

What should I do? Does he even like me, or am I just wasting my time? :S

Thanks

Well, to be totally honest, I dont think he likes you. But still, he might! Dont rely on a myspace comment back thing for answers because thats just silly! You havent even saw him yet. Plus you said that in school, he flirts with you. So wait this one out until you see him @ school. If he flirts with you, see if he likes you. If he doesnt communicate with you, you'll know that he doesnt have any feelings which is fine. There are others (:

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Am 15&female and real mature 4 my age I have a bf and me and hem been togethere for 9mons s0 for and me and hem been thorugh s0 much but the problem is that I now this boy and I chilled with all last summer and he likes me and before I went out with the boy I go with now, & he want to be with me and I did t0 I just didn't know if he was gonna be fathful but I talked 2 hem yesterday and now I no hem more then before and he's more mature then my bf& I feel like he can b fathful but the thing is I d0nt know if I should leave my bf 4 hem cause my bf really loves me a lot ,( Wat should I do ) ??

This is a very hard question because if you decided to leave your bf now, who knows what kind of regret you could feel! Take a while, and just think about who makes you happier and who has proved that he loves you. Your bf now seems like a very good one. He obviously loves you a lot if he has stuck by your side for 9 months! The other guy might look fantastic now, but do you know him as well as you think? So give it some time, think about who you love more, and just wait a little longer before you make any decisions!

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Ok,I'm a 14F and tomrrow I start school and I'm soooo nervous because I'm going to see my first crush.Anyway,I think there might be a HUGE possiblity that I might have him in one of my classes cause my school is very small.I wanna try to get to know him frist and try being close to him.I really don't wanna think about tommrow.Any adivce on how to keep my mind ocupied and try not to think about him???

Honestly, it is going to be hard to keep your mind off of a very important day, but to help keep your mind off atleast a little bit, try focusing on something else in your life. Maybe a friends issue?! Also, read a book. Reading has been proven to 100% change the mind's whole train of thought! One last option is sleeping haha, it is late now, so try taking a rest!

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I love my boyfriend I really do but its just that lately I feel like I haven't seen him in weeks (because of my strictd parents) that I don't see how this is going to work out I have talked to him about it and he says he doesn't care about the amount of days he hasn't seen me but I know he does because everytime he asks me to hang out with him I always say no or make up a dumb excuse all because I'm not allowed to go out with boys or any friends because of my strictd parents I feel like it isn't right going out with him if I can't see him should I break it off with him?? If so how can I do it??

I wouldnt immediately dump him. You could definately regret your decision in a few weeks if you do! I'd find a day that's always open for you two and just hang then! Its better than nothing, and if you do really love him - you'll find ways to see him as much as possible. Dont let your parents control EVERYTHING. Especially your boyfriend! But, if you are still on the "ehhh" side of this, then just break up with him. Since he's moving, it'll probably save you more trouble to do it now, then in a longer amount of time. Good luck dahling.

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Ok so i just started my 8th grade year! however last year there was this boy named kevin and me and him were the kind of friends who just waved to eachother between periods..Almost at the end of the year me and him started to talk and we became good friends! At the end of the school year everybody was celebrating and hugging people because it was the last day of school. Kevin came up behind me and asked for a hug so i gave him a hug and i was kinda surprised he wanted to hug me..Later on in the summer i waz at a sleep over at my friend melissa's house and i started talking to Kevin..ALOT..My friend melissa said randomly "WOW you knoe kevin!" and i sayd yea and i asked her how she knew him and she said she went to elementary with him///So we were on myspace for a while and we started calling eachother cute little bf/gf names as a joke...His ex randomly sent me a messege on my myspace and asked me if i liked him and i said yea the i got an instant messege from kevin and he said his ex taylor asked him if he liked me and i asked him what he told her and he said yea...After a few seconds he asked me what i said and i quickly logged off...I texted him and told him i said yea... then we started flirting..he told me to call him and i did..it was around 7 pm and the conversation didnt end untill 4 in the mornin!A few weeks of flirting went by and we became a thing! he asked me out through text messege and i gladly said YES bt after about a month when he asked me out we started arguing over dumb stuff and he has this show on myspace called
"CHANNEl 69 New at 11:oo" i found out he made a new episode and usualy in his "SHow" IT was staring Him and my socalled bro Jonny from skoo..So i looked at he new vid and there waz no Jonny! just sum uther kid and kevin!And all of the sudden i heard him making fun of jonny and saying jonny had herpes! i got mad and tol,d kevin it wasnt right and messeged jonny telling him wat kev said...Then kevin found ouot wut i did and he started giving me attitude so i told him not to talk to me if he was going to act like that..so a few weeks wents by and i finaly messeged him tellin him i didnt wanna be mad nemore and he said he didnt either so i though we were kool...Then that night i got this girl texting my phone saying
"leave my lover kevin Alone! he doesnt like you" so i wuz like wtf! So i asked kevin y he gave away my number and he said it was revenge for tellin jonny wat he had said then i found out the mystery girl was his EX taylor! so me and him started to hate eachother but after all the drama i think i still like him!!!1
WHAT DO I DO!!!

First of all, I think Kevin is a fine guy from what I am hearing, but honestly if he's getting that pissed from these pointless things, he has some attitude problems. I think you need to text him and say, you know what kevin? I think we BOTH need to change our ways if you want "us" to workout. If you only say he needs to be nicer, then he's just going to get angry. After your fine little chat with him about all of the problems and uneeded drama, tell him that you still have feelings for him and you want it to go back to how it was before all of the crap! If he knows that you still want him after everything, he's definately going to realize how much you care about him. Although guys don't often show how they truly, emotionally feel, it doesn't mean he isnt sensitive in spots too! So if everything doesnt work, and you and him are still getting in fights that just leave you sad and depressed, get over him. Find someone who can make you feel great!

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