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Gender: Female
Location: Kenya
Age: 37
Member Since: November 7, 2016
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I'm a 33 year old female, I'm 5'8 average built, and I think I'm a cute person. I don't have self esteem issues, I look in the mirror and think of myself as cute. But no guys ever approach me that I'm even remotely interested in. It's always guys old enough to be my father, which completely grosses me out. Don't get me wrong, there's lots of older attractive men out there... I for one rather not date someone in their 60's... Ten years older than me is my limit. And that's usually who approaches me, or weirdo looking guys, I wouldn't dare go out with. I keep my make up nice and simple, I'm kinda a perfectionist when it comes to beauty, so my hair is always neat... I'm a cocktail waitress, and writer... So I see guys on the regular, at work.. Stores etc etc... Yet no one that I'm even at all attracted to approaches me. And let me put it out there, I'm not one of those females with imaginary high standards. You don't have to be the most handsome or rich dude out there... I just prefer someone I have some attraction to. Please don't suggest online dating... I've tried it... From the paid sites, to the free ones... No luck, I've only been approached by weirdos, old guys, dudes who were already in a relationship, or guys looking for a meal ticket, guys only wanting hookups... The first and only date I had... Which wasn't technically a date at all... We met at Starbucks, and I had to buy my own coffee... Let's just say we never talked again.... I can go on and on... But I won't, lol online dating is no longer an option for me... Yet I feel like without it I have no chance... I understand whomever is reading this doesn't know me personally... So you can't give the most accurate advice... But any little can help... I'm just so tired of being alone, I want love so bad it hurts... (link)
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Hi Single for 8 years
It's seems you need to generate dates to get back into the game. You might want to consider telling your friends or family to introduce you to some people. This option is good because these are people who are already known. It can get abit awkward though with your friends and family if things don't work out.
Also consider a match maker. They can assist by selecting dates for you within the category you want. The downside is that it might cost some money.
The other option you can consider is getting into an activity such as dancing, joining a club; generally where you will meet new people.
Reconsider online dating. Join one that is highly recommended. This option is a problem as it is difficult to know a genuine person from reading their profile. Also take precautions when meeting someone for the first time such as meeting in a public place and letting a friend know where you are.
I am not sure how aggressive you would like to date but you will need to put yourself out there, be extremely patient and open minded. Try to relax and give yourself a break. Things seem to move a little bit better at least that is my experience.
Wishing you the best.
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