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Heres a good advice on starting convos's from www.jellybean.com
Do you find yourself tongue-tied around your crush? Here is everything you need to know about starting a conversation with the boy of your dreams.
Relax, it's Kid Stuff!
Talking to boys is pretty easy, once you realize that they are just people, no different from you or your friends. Of course, this can be hard to remember when you've spent all morning obsessing over his cute freckles and writing his name in your notebooks. But think about it: Boys are just kids. So when you see the boy you're crushing on, picture him doing something goofy and kid-like, like shopping for underwear with his mom. That will bring your image of him down to earth, making normal conversation so much easier.
The Spider Principle
Just like your mom says about spiders, boys are more scared of you than you are of them! Believe it or not, most teenage guys are way more nervous than girls when it comes to talking and making a good impression with the opposite sex. Lots of guys (even the hottest ones) think that girls see them as gross or weird. So just by making the effort to talk to him, you're giving him a reason to like you, because you're showing him that he's worth your time. If you can make him feel at ease, he will be grateful... and impressed.
Start Slowly
Don't walk up to a guy you barely know and blurt out your feelings for him, or a complete history of your life since age three. When you want to start talking to a guy you're eyeing, the best approach is to take it slowly. Start by giving him your best smile and saying "hi" whenever you walk past him. Don't worry that it looks weird, he'll think he talked to you at some time and forget about it. Once he starts saying "hi" back, then you can move on to the next step, which is...
The Friendly Comment
Once he knows that you exist, start building up a relationship with your crush by making a friendly comment whenever you see him. Since you don't know him, your comments should be general and cheerful. For example, you could smile and say, "Only 2 months 'til March Break!" Or give him a compliment by saying, "Cool shoes, I love them!" He'll start looking forward to seeing you, and with any luck he will pick up on one of your comments and talk back... hey, that's actual conversation! Remember, walk slooowwwly past him or he won't have time to say anything back.
Ask Him a Question
If your crush doesn't take the bait and start talking to you, it's time to ask him a question. Questions are excellent talking tools because they pull people into conversation. Just make sure to ask open-ended questions - if you ask something that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no", there's a risk that your convo will be over in seconds! (For example, "What do you think of dogs for pets?" instead of "Do you have a dog?") You could also try asking him for directions (maybe he'll escort you where you're going), or if he's on the school football team, ask what a defensive quarterback is (say you heard the term on TV). When he answers, be sure to thank him and give him a big smile.
Sometimes it's a good idea to do "research" before talking to your crush, so you can figure out what he's into. If you know anyone who knows him well - and can be trusted not to blab that you were asking about him, ask them to tell you what are his likes/dislikes, what he enjoys doing, etc. Then you can use this info to ask him good questions when you talk to him. Plus, if you drop certain info into the conversation - like you found out he's into a certain band, and you happen to mention you like them too - he'll see that you two have stuff in common.
Keep it Casual
When a person is nervous, it's common to just blab and blab for the sake of keeping the chat going. But guys get irritated when girls talk just for the sake of talking. If he barely knows you, he's probably not interested in what your little sister did on the weekend, or what you dreamed about last night. Keep the discussion light and in the present. Also, avoid talking about ex-boyfriends, family or friend problems or anything else that's too heavy or negative. If you two get to know each other better, there's lots of time for sharing secrets then.
Listen and Learn
By this point, you and your crush are probably having real, back-and-forth conversations. But what happens if things stall, and neither of you can think of anything to say? When that happens, just jump-start the conversation by changing the subject and asking a question. Then listen closely to his answer, and you’ll learn all about the guy! Topics that two people can always find stuff to talk about include movies that currently playing, recent or upcoming vacation plans, opinions about a certain class or teacher, after-school jobs and pets, to name just a few.
Put the Focus on Him
Girls who are truly great conversationalists have mastered this trick. It's about focusing on the other person's comfort level during a conversation. Think about it this way: If the conversation goes smoothly and he gets to talk about himself, he'll leave thinking you're fun and interesting to talk to. To make that happen, all you need to do it keep your focus on bringing him out. Don't worry about having something to say that's interesting. Just get him talking about himself - use questions (yes, questions again!) to find out his favorite band, if he's involved in any after-school activities, if he has any plans for college yet - and so on. Master this move, and you will appear very confident. And that’s very attractive!
Walk Away First
When talking to a guy, it's always better to be the one to walk away. That way you won't run the risk of going on and on, or blurting out something weird when there's an awkward silence. Even if the convo is going great, leave when it's good and you will leave him wanting more. So after you've chatted for a bit, when it feels like a good point for the conversation to wrap up, say, "It was nice talking to you" and be on your way.
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