about

Well, Where to begin, there is so much to tell, but the true question is what to tell. "One who knows nothing, can understand nothing." quote is true through all of life. I have been fascinated with what the mind can do, and how to solve these issues.
Majority of people's problems occur because they tend to think with their emotions. I believe that it is my job to help people with their problems. While i may not be the best advice giver in the world, after i know something, it must then be understood. so if there is an emotional problem, or just need someone to talk to about random things. Here is my Column.

advice

hey. i have a bit of an interesting situation going on. i hadn't heard from my boyfriend in a couple of days, so i was a little worried. but, he texted me saying that he was very sorry, it was just that his grandmother was in the hospital and he was having a hard time and kind of went into a coop, which is something he tends to do when he worries, he hides in his shell. but, just yesturday, i was in the hospital, and i had spent the night before there with the IV, and I was feeling so bad because I hadn't heard from him and I didn't want to call him crying about me being there either. but, i don't want to sound greedy by telling him that he has to communicate with me, because he didn't know that I was in the hospital too, and I felt really bad in that hospital, not having heard from him, or him having been there, you know what I mean? but, i feel really bad for the grandmother, because she's so sweet, and I don't want to sound greedy, like I'm the only one who should have his attention. I just feel like I was put to the side, which I know he didn't mean to do, I really don't want a lecture on that right now. but, i know how he gets with this. he doesn't deal with these types of things well. i'm even thinking it's better if he were to find out through someone else about the hospital, instead of me, you know? can anyone give me some advice here?

Guys can tend to curl up in a ball in a sticky situation, trust me, i know, im a guy.

Relationships work two ways, and it takes two to Tango. this is true of any relationship. NO matter what happens communication is a key part to the relationship, he has to communicate with you, and you must communicate with him.

What to do, begin communication. Family comes first in anything, before you, and before his friends. You need to show him that you are supportive. bad things happen when we as men bottle up our emotions as we do tend to do.

When you show that you have to communicate for the relationship's survival, you are saying that you want the relationship to last forever. Eventually he will open up to you, and problems such as these merely become speed bumps in the road.

You weren't thrown aside as much as you feel that way. In a problematic situation that hits close to home, we hide instead of face our problems. which is why things like this are hard to deal with. which is where you come in. Show him your love, and he will do the same.

With this being said, you are the one that has to tell him that you were in the hospital, and while you may not have told him that you were there for his own protection, you must express to him why you didn't tell him. after he realizes the potential problems in the relationship, things will get better between you and your relationship will never fail

[view]

Sorry this is long but okay I like this guy and I didn't want anyone to know.By the way I'm in 8th grade. Only my best friend knew but then a 7th grader that we hung out with found out and we also found out she wasn't very trustworthy. We were at camp when all this happened though. We were gone for a week. Okay well she told this other 8th grade girl who we liked. And I was upset. Then I guess the word got out somewhere along there and then the guy I liked friend found out and came up to me and said I know who you like and he knows it too. I was like sure whatever, I thought he was just joking around. Then he said did I mention it was 'the guy I liked name'. And he was bugging me about it and he said if I keep staring a picture would last longer. I don't know what to do but I keep telling him I don't like him. Now I got off the phone with a friend and I can't trust her very much and she doesn't know who I like. She told me that they came up to her and asked if I liked him. I don't know whether to believe her or not but I think he knows that I do like him. I really need help how to deal with this. What to say to them and what to do and what not to do.

Oh some extra stuff is that I don't see him often usually twice a week since we go to the same church not school. And sometimes activities that we have. But we were at camp for a week too.

Okay, this can get complicated. so please bare with me.

Love is a fickle thing to try and manage. So we will keep it down to the point you really like this guy.

The guy you like, Tell him. There can be no harm in you saying the way you truly feel. Regardless of what the other people think, you should follow how you feel, when he asked you about it, you denied it. You also denied yourself in doing so, and i know it hurt you to not be able to tell him how you truly feel. this is obvious. It will be much more of a relief once you tell him how you feel and he responds.

Now, we come to your "friends." this is the complication. So before i begin here. Let me state that i think logically instead of with emotions.

1) Your not so trustworthy friend. The one who blabbed your secret is not your friend. A Friend would not go around saying what other people are doing, and with who for that matter.

2) Don't believe the girl on the phone, not to sound cold hearted, but still. What she wants is information. "Knowledge is Power" this is a true statement. If you don't trust her, don't tell her.

3) the girls at camp. they know nothing and are foolish to jump into an affair that doesn't concern them. when you feel like sharing it with them, do it. in the mean time, it is not their place to know anything about your love life.

There are two things you can do.

the first one, is go along with the girls. play with it a little bit. but a warning, in doing this, you could easily end up in a hole and in a position to which you don't want to be in.

the second thing. do nothing, the rumor of you liking someone will continue to spread, and hopefully for you, it will. this is a good thing that it spreads. because the person you like has already approached you about it. So there is no more embarrassment for you if he finds out.

what you need to do is follow your heart. don't deny your heart what it desires.

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker