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hmm, I'm a 16 year old highschool chick, I'm opinionated and some people hate me for that, I give good advice my friends have told me. But theres not much more to me. I'm always there when people need me. I can help with anything and mostly everything, by the way, no I do not care what my picture looks like, I was depressed there are no pictures of me that don't look upset, if there is a problem that you don't want to talk about here you can mail me, my e-mail is somewhere on the page

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Okay well my buddy, he isn't doing to well, he has his good days and his bad. I guess she told him that she was dating this new guy, and he fliped, I mean I had to hold him down.
Is there anything that I can tell him to keep him from doing this to himself? I mean with you do you think your new guy is gonna last?
-Matt

I don't know if anything is gonna last, with new guy it's been about a month now, so I dunno, I can't really tell you anything that's gonna stop him from doing whathe's doing except be there to listen to him if he needs to talk about something

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Could you tell me about you and what is going on there? maybe I can then tell him that he isn't alone.
-Matt

Well, first we dated for 9 and a half months, so the break up was pretty bad, but then after I got over the fact that we were over, he wanted me back, but I don't know about your friend, but my ex was the biggest control freak you've ever seen. I heard from some of his friends about how he thought he had me right around his little finger, and how he planned for the guy i'm currently dating to kiss me, and then my ex was gonna come and break up with me. I hope your friend doesn't get mad that his ex is dating other people, 'cause that would be a huge mistake. It didn't work for Nate, and I don't think it will work for him. But if he accepts it, then there still might be a chance

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What if she never wants him back and he doesn't want to move on, and he waits, but then she doesn't want a thing to do with him? Then what does he do? My friend is becoming depressed and he doesn't know what to do other then drink his problems away, is this a good idea?
-Matt

Oh man, this is like exactly what is going on with me too. I can't really tell you what's gonna happen if she doesnt want him back because i know nothing about him, he really shouldn't drink his problems away, he's too young to do that. I know what you mean when he says he's becoming depressed, because well... that's like my life, but he shouldn't drink his problems away, it won't work, and he's too young to be ruining his life like that

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How will my friend know when it is right to get back with his ex?

That's a tough one, just let time run it's course is all I can say... and yell at my ex, who's being pushy, but let time runs it course let your friend and his ex do their things and just hope for the best

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Well my friend has figured something out. I don't know if you would agree but I think it will be alright to do. Do you think it is okay for him to date while he waits for her? Because I mean she is out there doing her thing I think he can do his, and at some point when they both aren't with someone they try it again right?
-Matt

Well Matt,
yes you're friend is right, he should date other people while she's doin' her thing

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Yeah so...uh well my friend, his ex has been sending him some mixed signals. She has been talking more and more about trust and how he can prove himself to her. He wants to prove himself but is there anything that you could tell me to help him along? He really really loves her with all his heart and soul.
-Matt

ummm... I don't know, trust is one of the hardest things to prove to someone. I think he should just be himself, he should just I don't know, listen to what she says, it's hard to give advice on this, so my answer's a little choppy

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So do you miss him? Because all my friend talks about is how much he wants to be with her and how much he misses her. Oh one other thing what if your ex doesn't want to have you back? What if the tables get turned? What if you waited to long? What if my friend waits forever and she ain't coming back, and he misses out on all the good things in life?
-Matt

Life is about risks, I don't think that your friend should miss out on everything that life has to give. In my case, if my ex doesn't want me back, then so be it it was a good run. In your friends case, it might and might not be the same, but you can;t wait foreverm you have to live your life to the fullest, I sound like such an old freak, but I'm not, I've been there, i've missed a lot already

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Are you over him to the point where you can date someone else? Or do you think that since there could be a chance you wouldn't date anyone else?
With my friend his g/f is kinda seeing someone, but he also thinks that as the two of them stay apart, that it is okay for him to see others, and her too, do you think that is right? Do you think that the two of them will fall in love all over again?
-Matt

At the moment yes I am currently seeing someone else. If there is still hope for the two of them then they can go date other people and live they're lives, and then if there's hope they will always come back to each other. But in order for that to happen they should also try to remain friends, even if they aren't dating. Or at least try that (being friends)

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What have you done with your situation? I mean do you even think that there could be a chance with you and him? I mean is there anything from your life that might help me? Cuz your on the other end here and I need some major help.
- Matt

Well right now, I am currently getting know my ex over again, because well I don't know if your friend was a jerk about the break-up but my ex was. So I'm getting to know him. Yes I believe there probably is still a chance with me and him. But for that it would take a lot of getting to know each other again.

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Ok..I Like My BestFriends ex boyfriend. I'm afraid to tell her because i dont want her to get mad at me. But this guy is truly AMAZING..but i dont want to risk losing my friendship..but hes awesome!! I dont know what to do.. Please help me!!

Signed,
Split in Two

Talk to your friend find out if shed be upset of the two of you dated, if she is then fine out why, but he is her ex that might be a factor because maybe they arent on good terms right now, but if they are okay with each other then I'd say go for him, she shouldnt be upset since she already had her chance with her, but it didnt go well if they are now ex's good luck

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i went out with this guy fro 8 months, we broke up durning the school year and i still like him. now my friend likes him. well shes so annoying and she brags about what they to me. Even though he doesnt like her at all and thinks shes annoying. I duno how to make it stop, shes really getting on my nerves and i already tried to talk to her about, it didnt work. HELP!

no matter how much it doesn't work you have to keep telling her that its annoying what she is doing, if you have to talk to the guy and get him to ask her to stop because that is the most annoying thing in the world to have people brag about stuff that they're doing with guys/girls

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I'm sorry but for everyone out there how do you get a guy to notice you?

Be yourself, try hanging around him, try to become friend with him, talk to him lol just always be yourself :)

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I have a big problem , I went out with my bf and he's 17 , Im 15 well a really nice gurl to him , he dumped me and went for here..... How do I get over him , He keeps talking about her everytime Im around him..... HE"S HURTING MY FEELINGS!!!!! PLZ HELP Thanks Jenipher

For a bit, don't hang around him if he's goning to talk about this other girl, if he doesn't stop talking about this girl when you are around him tell him you don't appreciate that he talks about other girl all the time, it hurts you

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ok my sis and her friend told me for the longest time that her brother who is in my grade liked me and i figured it out whern he asked me out so now were goin out and there always askin me questions about like personal things like what weve done and stuff i love hangin out wit my sister and her friend but when they envite my b/f we like dontr talk to eachother and i dont know y and when we tried they sit there and just start sayin stuff and when we dont there like y dont u talk

First of all, I'd talk to you're sister, because iof you're not talking when she is around you, it must be an uncomfortable situation, but they sound like they want to dominate the conversation, maybe you could ask them to not to ask you personal questions because that is you're life not theirs well hope it help :$

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I like this guy alot, and he's my friends neighbor there no problem. we both flirtall the time (anthony and me). its just that at sometimes he'll go i don like you what are you doen here but he'll say it sarcasticly. and then at other times he'llplay footsie with me. i like him alot. but idk wheter should i confront him, or just keep things the way they are. i see him alot during the summer so that wouldnt b a problem.and hes a grade aahead of me idk if that might be the problemt too. please help

well to me it sounds like he likes you, and he has a weird sense of humor, if you're not sure about confronting him yet, wait a little but I'd definatly say go for it, he'll probably say yes :) good luck

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