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Q: 18-female. my guy friend is 17/m

so i've known lets call him "nick" for about four years now. he recently just broke up with his girlfriend of three years, yeah shocking! i've always liked him so i was kind of happy about it. but then i heard from my cousin that he was "talking" to another girl. i was really upset, becasue i mean really? another girl already? and so one night i was like nick is there something you have to tell me, and he was like well like what. and then i was like i hear you have a "new girl" and he was like what! no!! who?! and i told him and he was like haha noooo where did you hear that from and then he always denied it well then the next day he was texting me all day and this girl is my cousin's cousin if that makes sense and she invited herself to his house because my cousin is next door neighbors with nick. well i was like nick why dont you go over there to see your new girl? and he was like SHES NOT MY NEW GIRL! why do you think she is? i dont have a new girl, i dont want one. and i was like why would she invite herself over there, to see you? and he was like i dont know, cant we be friends and why do you care anyways? and i was like because i hate being lied to! and he was like you dont ever even believe me and he knows i have a trust issue and i felt bad because he sounded SOOOO convincing you know? so i was like okay sorry i belive you, i wont bring it up again. well then that night it was me nick my cousin and the "girl" at my cousins house. the "girl" tries to get ALL the attention, its quite annoying. well then nick asked if she wanted to play air hockey downstairs and so just them two went down and after they were done they stayed down there and we watching a movie!!! i was so pissed, but i wasnt going to say anything well because i told him i wouldnt bring it up again and i didnt want to seem annoying because i knew he would say shes not his new girl. i just dont understand though? and my cousin was spying on them and texted nick and was like stop being a "pussy" and kiss her and then he said they were talking about it? i almost started crying. what should i do? am i over reacting? i dont want to seem annoying and i've already brought her up twice before! do you think there just friends? i know hes attracted to me, its not like i'm looking for a relationship with him though becasue i know he wouldnt want to get into one right away. after that night, i havent talked to him at ALL. any suggestions, comments? what do you think is going on.

Im not gonna lie like everyone else below me. but i think he might have a little crush on this girl; but you can stop it before it happens. why dont you talk to him a little about it and tell him you kinda have a thing for him, but try to flirt with other guys a little and make him jealous. If he is attracted to you he should have no problem coming to you. it might take him awhile to get over his three year relationship. but hey, maybe your better than that girl :) i say give it time and let him know you are still there and you will stay by him, but dont wait too long, because sometimes it becomes a waste of time. and also make sure his ex girlfriend and him are completely done, because this happened to me kinda, we were dating for a while and boom his first love pops in and takes him. i just waited it out for a month or so and kept talking to him to see if they had any problems so that i could take him back. but just the other day i decided that he was a waste of time. so take your time, but dont make a waste of your time. good luck

Q: im 14/f
i like this guy
he knows but, he says he doesnt kno me well enough i mean we talk everyday on myspace but, nvr imporant things so, is it possible that he just doesnt kno me enough
i would like guy advice

try seeing if he can go hang out a park or a near by place. talk to him on the phone or text him instead of just myspace. make plans to hang out, and prove to him that your just as good as you said before. =]
good luck hun.

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