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ah okay. my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9 months, it'll be 10 months by valentines day. but shes in college so we have a long distance relationship.
we wont be together on valentines day but i still want to do something sweet for her, whether i mail it or whatever.

any ideas?!

Maybe some type of video callaborated with her favorite music, pictures, and you!!
and send her flowers def.
and like the other girl said
if she likes poems do that too
but im sure since it is a long distance relationship she would love to see you..sooo i like the video idea ..and just use your own creativity to figure out what to put in the video. !
let me know how it goes
CECEE
email --> rebelbabie696@hotmail.com

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This is gonna be long...I'm just looking for opinions here, this is obviously something I need to figure out for myself. But, I need some outsiders to look at this situation for me. I'm too stuck in the middle to step out. I'm 21, and a girl.
Guy #1 - Jeremy. He's 23.
Jeremy and I have almost three and a half years of history together. Unfortunately the history isn't all positive. He was emotionally abusive for the entirety of our "official" relationship, and caused me some major issues (depression, anorexia). We dated for awhile in '05-'06, but broke up because he was having depression issues and couldn't handle our relationship on top of all that...but we never really broke up. We stayed friends with benefits for two years after that. We both felt that we had no time for a real relationship, and it wasn't really one until recently. At some point I realized he wasn't treating me well enough, so I wrote him a goodbye letter and told him I never wanted to see him again. He gave me back my key, and left. A week later, he called me and begged me for another chance at friendship, and after much hesitating, I agreed. He was like a completely different person. It seemed that he'd had some sort of epiphany while I was gone, and changed for the better. He started complimenting me, being really sweet, and just...yeah.
That would've been fine, except that Jeremy's family hates me. They threatened to cut him off financially if they ever saw me again at one point. He's had some major issues, including ankle surgery, a...sexual problem (blocked vein, or something), and because he's been couch-ridden and all that, we haven't been physically very close lately, and I've been hanging out with other people. The thing is, recently, Jeremy has become the sweetest man I've ever met. The other night, he came over and brought my favorite wine with two pounds of strawberries. We melted dark chocolate chips I had and dipped strawberries in chocolate all night, and cuddled. It was, like, perfect. He's doing and saying all these things now I used to dream about him doing, including playing with my hair like he never used to.
Guy #2 - Erik. He's 27.
I work as a barista in a coffee shop. Erik's one of the regulars. We started really hanging out one night after I'd come home from Jeremy's house and gone straight to the coffee shop, upset after having been kicked out by his parents. Erik asked why I looked so upset, so I bitched to him At some point, I said, jokingly, "I need a drink." He said, "well I can't help you with Jeremy's parents, but I can definitely help you with that." So that weekend we went to the bar and he bought me a drink. We talked, and connected, and he surprised me a lot. My first impression of him was quite wrong, as he came off as kind of a computer geek and nothing else...but he's really intelligent, strong, cute, likes to have fun, likes to laugh...He's also an amazing kisser. When I was little, I used to write little romance-type-stories, and the guys always used to tangle their fingers in the girl's hair when they kissed, and Erik does that exactly the way I envisioned it. He's like, freakishly perfect for me, aside from being a little out of shape...but guys I date always wind up at the gym with me anyway. Only problem I seem to be having is that he's shaping up to be quite possessive. Erik has been in California for a week. I hung out with Jeremy once while he was gone, AT my coffeeshop. Erik's friends called him and told him I was hanging out with Jeremy. When I called him later, I had nothing to hide, and I was about to tell him. But he was being so cold, I finally asked what his deal was, and then he said "I was informed that you were hanging out with Jeremy." I feel like his friends are stalking me, and it's a little creepy. Then again, I've never dated a guy who didn't become possessive and jealous if they didn't start out that way. Yes, I've already discussed this with him, but it's still a factor...it's drama I don't want or need. I'm in my last semester of my undergrad, and the last thing I need is to be distracted from my schooling.
Anyway, Erik's family appears to like me. Erik and I think alike. We're both Scorpios (not that I put much stock in that...Jeremy's Cancer.)...Erik has a job, has his life together, and doesn't mind whipping out the credit card every so often. He lives with his parents, but he's looking for his own place.
Jeremy has no income, still lives with his family...but even with all the crap going on in his life, he's taken me out to lunch, brought me strawberries, brought me chocolates...he's trying really hard to do everything he can for me...but I can't help wondering if he's not doing it because he thought he was losing me, and he'll just snap back to taking me for granted as soon as I commit.
Both guys know about each other. This is all out in the open. I took my time telling Jeremy about Erik, but when I finally did, after agreeing to not contact each other for a week, he said, "I'll be damned if I let Erik prance in with his contact lenses and web design and take you from me." Which, I hate to admit, is kind of romantic, in a way...Jeremy is a guy who doesn't apologize, doesn't chase girls, and doesn't beg, but he's done all of that recently for me.
The idea that the bad-boy is trying to be a good-guy to keep me close to him, is willing to overcome his commitment phobia and commit to me, has even threatened to leave his parents' house and never speak to them again if they didn't back off about me, and has basically turned into prince charming, is pretty enticing.
But I also feel that I can't ignore the fact that I have a thing for Erik...can I? I mean if my relationship with Jeremy were what it was supposed to be, that wouldn't have happened, would it? I'd like to just kind of see them both and figure out who I really want, but they both gave me the "me or him" ultimatum, so I have to make a decision quickly.
I admit, I'm a little afraid that going back to Jeremy will turn into what it was before. I'm afraid to lose him, and I almost feel that if we did get back together, it would be for good. I've had dreams about marrying him...
I'm also a little afraid that Erik will turn out to be some horrible jealous, possessive man, and that I'll be in a worse hell than I was before.
At least Jeremy can back off. He's willing to give me a week apart, knowing full well that I could be hanging out with Erik, and trusting that I'll make the right decision...but our history has been bad - he hasn't treated me right in the past, I've tried to kick him out, his family gives me headaches, and I just...argh.
I don't know who to pick, which way to turn, or how to go about picking.
Help me...

from the story, it seems like jeremy really wants to change for you, and keep you in his life, and he is even willing to give you your space and stuff (which is odd for a guy to do, knowing you will be with another guy) that shows alot of trust and effort, BUT your past with him does seem very bad, and if it were ever to be like that again . worse things could happen. emotional depression is very unhealthy and dangerous, and i dont even know you and would never hope that that would happen again. This erik guy, seems to just trying to get to know you at the time, i dont see any real commitment from him yet, but that could be because it is so early with him, and there isnt realy much you can know about the future with either of them because .... you still talking to both, and there true personality probably wont come out until you choose one of them. i would def. go with your heart. and if it doesnt work out, you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. in my opinion jeremy seems like he is trying to change, but alot of times. they try because they love you,but it never really happens because it is THEM and they always end up acting the same way, and the family issue is difficult, but they should not come between love. and with erik. idk . not much information on him, but possesive is BAD. you will be very unhappy

i guess what im saying is follow your heart dont let jeremy hurt you, if he even shows a hint of his old self LEAVE. and GET OUT of the relationship.. if you go with erik and it isnt going where you wish get out of that too

i hope it works out with one of them!! and you are both happy
but if not --> manyyy guys out there... theres one thats perfect for you!
let me know how it goes
CeCee

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heyy. so like .. i was hanging out with my guy friend, who i guess you could say is like a wanna be player. and we were sitting in his car & he kissed me. we talked after that and he told me he wanted to hook up & he seemed to be pretty into me.. and i realized that i wanted to also.. so about a week later, we hung out again and we hooked up. i wasn't sure about it before but now i feel like i like him. i wouldn't want to go out with him though because hes a player/ he can be pushy. we talked the day after we hooked up & things seemed to be chill between us but its been a few days and we havent talked. i texted him and he didnt respond .. i'm just in a state of confusion and i dont think i should like him but right now, i can't really help it. what should i do ?

to be honest, im not so sure he is into you, he just wanted to get in your pants, so he played like he was sweet, and you could tell, and guess what you gave him what he wanted, and i mean if you wanted to and liked it , lol so be it, but im thinkin he is not interested and just wanted to hook up, best advice?..be freinds for a while see where that takes you, get to know him omre, dont try and get feelings for him, seems like you will be hurt
hope i helped
CeCee

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Ok well anyone who has been following along with my thing with this guy should be filled in but just a quick recap. Ok well my ex and I broke up I hurt him big time but then liked him again and he basically flirts with me all the time or so says my teacher!! and all my friends but anyway basicly today I was laying on the floor in L.A. abnd came a sat next to me and I could see outta the corner of my eye him looking at me and so I didn't want to look so I just smiled but then Ms. Carder (my fav. teacher) was like Oh my gosh you are so in love with each other and I was like ms. Carder! But then at the same time I was like happy but he was like no I like someone and it's not Taylor (my bff) so I was like...maybe it's me?? Well after class in carpool I was like 2my buds Tia and Tay do you know who (my crush) likes and they go you!! N I was like no!! but apparently he and I turned red when Ms. Carder was like you to are like to little puppies haha!! Well my prob. is I.D.K. if my bff Tay likes him or not, two I don't wanna ruin another relationship wit him, and 3 a much cutter guy you'll member as Miller was like Bow chica wow wow behind me wen it was just me n him in da class so i.d.k. wut2 do?? HELP!

alright, so it seems like he does like you, and im not sure what you mean if tay likes him, like a friend, or likes likes him, if she does not even like him as a friend talk to her, and tell her how you feel and maybe you can come to a compromise, she will want you to be happy if she is your true friend, and you will want her to be happy as well, so try to come to an understanding, BUT if she likeslikes him, back off, right away, and make sure she backs off too, you dont want to even try that. causes lots of problems in the long wrong, been there, done that, okay, so you are scared to mess up, well everyone is scared to mess up, if you guys ever get the chance to talk you two, tel him how you are scared and nervous and would never want to hurt him - i bet he feels the same way, but scared to admit it =) AND the other guy, he might think you look good, but your not sure if he likes you, an i would follow true feelings, not just cus your flattered that he is attracted o you. well lastly, truly follow what will make you happy, and your best freind lol
well hope i helped
fill me in later?
cee *
oh sorry its so long =)

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