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Hi,
When it comes to giving advice and sorting out sticky situations I have experience!! For many years all my friends have called me their 'agony aunt' and I always seem to be the one they confide in and come to for advice. Now I want to do the same for you! When it comes to giving advice though I always think of one of my favourite quotes 'I am not a teacher, I'm just the fellow traveller that you happened to ask the way' - the way I see it we're all in this together (life that is!) And we should be looking after each other and helping out however we can. I will talk about anything and don't mind getting personal. I always tell you the truth about what I really think!!

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Chandler xxx

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15/f

When a guy asks you to see a movie, does that necessarily mean it is a date? What if he is bringing one of his friends but doesn't care if you bring someone?

I suppose I am going to get different answers, but I'm sure there must be a way to figure it out.

Thanks! =)

Hi hun,

Yea - two ways to figger it out, one ask him and two wait and see what happens and how things go! If the guy considers it a date or not very much depends on him individually but if there was only the two of you going its more than likely a date!
My advice? - don't worry about what things are or aren't just go with the flow and have fun! Let me know how things go.
Chan
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My boyfriend is significantly older then I am.

:] Well let me start by saying that I do have a great relationship with my boyfriend. He's my best friend and he makes me extremely happy most of the time.

The problem is he makes me feel so bad. He says that I don't let him see his friends enough. Whenever we rarely hang out on weekdays, and yes, we do hang out on weekends only because we're both so busy any other time. =[

So, tonight he came over because I cooked my family dinner and everything was going well. Until he got a call from his roommate who said they were going to have a party. The guy who was going to be there always has weed & stuff and the only time my boyfriend ever gets high is when he's there.

That's when I went into a serious girlfriend mode and started telling him he couldn't do it, otherwise I'd be mad. Then he started complaining about how I always make him feel guilty & never let him hang out with friends.

What can I do to make this whole situation better? But, still be with him at the same time?

HI,
Well I don't think your unreasonable or in the wrong for not wanting your boyfriend to smoke weed and get high!!! And to be 100% truthful I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who did that.

Relationships are all about balance, its important you want to spend time with your boyfriend / girlfriend and that you are like you say 'best friends' or a least 'good friends' but people also need space or they feel trapped and suffocated and when people stat to feel like that they run a mile in the opposite direction.

You need an honest conversation with your boyfriend and an honest conversation with your self. Calmly explain to him how you feel and listed as he does the same. Compromise and mutual understanding is what is needed. Ultimately if your boyfriend can't cope with that or can't understand, to quote a good friend of mine: 'no matter who much you love and care for some one if its not going anywhere and its not going to work you get out and move on!' hopefully this won't be the case with you and your boyfriend and you will be able to sort it out but you need to have that conversation ASAP. And if I where you I would say the smoking weed stops because I do not want to be with some one who does that and associates with people like that!!

Good luck and let me know how it all goes
Chan.
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