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Im 16, and a while ago I was involved with this guy who was 18. He was a senior at my best friends school, and he was gorgeous and popular etc. I met him because he works at My gymnastics school

Now me, im invisable in my school. Im shy and no one notices me, I hide behind books and avoid talking whenever possible, but im different at gymnastics. My teammates are my best friends and im outgoing etc when im with them

When we met, I was seriously depressed about being invisable, and only my best friend knew. Now she went to school with the other kid, but she wasnt popular so he didnt talk to her.
Anyway, one day my best friend was working with him, and he told her he really thought i was pretty and kept asking questions about me and this pulled me out of my depression
-he saw me when i was invisable

Then a few weeks later we actually talked, like hed call etc, and he eventually broke my shyness and i ended up at his house in his bed making ut with him. That went on for a while, wed keep hooking up till he tried to get farther to fast. I told him to stop and he respected that then not much later he blew me off because i wouldnt sleep with him

After that I pretended to get over him quickly, but I still saw him at gymnastics, and when i worked with him hed be all over me, or when id be working out and hed be coaching, hed coach when my teammates were on the beam, but stop and watch when i was etc. He played major mind games with me, and I played them back. I went out with this other kid he goes to school with just so hed be jealous (which he was and he also checked up on me) and I made him think I hated him on perpose, though I think if id showed him I liked him I could have had him back.

Then he got fired. I took it as fate. Someone was trying to help me get over him, but it wasnt that easy. HE alone saw me when I was invisable.

Either way hes going to college in like 5 days, and I miss him so much and I cant get over him and it hasnt gotten much better over time

What should I do?

Thanks for the advice guys

and just to let everyone know
the guy I went out with to make him jealous
I didnt want to explain cause its a totally different story, but I didnt realize that that was the reason Id went out with him till we broke up and I didnt care at all. Like I should have been slightly upset except I realized then that I never cared for him, and that the other guy had to have been the reason for me saying yes to him asking me out in the first place

And I know I need to get over him
If I was playing hard to get its probably better that way
I guess if its meant to be well meet again sometime somewhere else under better circumstances

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I moved to Tennessee about a month and a half ago from West Virginia,and I am still in love with this boy in West Virginia.He tells me he still thinks about me all the time,but he also talks to this other girl,and I don't know what is going on in his head,and we have been out twice,but had some problems.I really don't know what to do,because I live in Tennessee now...please help!

My advice is don't lose youch with him, but dont be so preoccupied with him that you forget that theres a world out there. You can not change his decision about talking to the other girl, but you can get on with your life, and be his friend. If its meant to be, it will work out that way, but sometimes you have to consider that maybe theres a reason why you had to move and he was taken away

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