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i really like this one guy, but i really don't think i'm alive. i really want him to ask me out but he never talks to me. what sould i do?

Oooo, been there. Done that. Unrequited crushes are a bitch, no? The funny thing about attraction is that guys seem to be more attracted the less you think about them. I'm by no means recommending you chase another guy and hope for jealousy to wake him up to your awesomeness. I'm just saying that I would talk to other guys in his presence, maybe befriend some of his friends? Also being where he is increasing the chances of him noticing you. Similair interests usually open the door to communication. Being laid back, able to joke around with him, give him a little bit of a hard time seem to be the best way to start flirting. If you want to balls up and ask him out, try inviting him and some friends to a group event like a ball game or concert. The best thing a girl can do is put herself out there, and hold her head high no matter what happens. It's brave and it only scores you major confidence points (even if it's the last thing you are!)

Work the confidence, get some back up from your friends, and go for it! Time it right and be confident, use your humor to get ya through it.

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I can't put up with people my own age. I'm fourteen and I just.. Can't. People around my age frustrate me. I can't even date people around my age! It's ridiculous. My father said it's because I've been brought up in a family where my siblings are MUCH older then me. I'm talking about 6-20 years older in range. Apparently I'm quite mature for my age. Is there any way that possibly I could maybe be able to tolerate people my own age? All my friends are 16-19.

Your question asks if there's "any way possible"... The answer to that is yes. You and me are no better than or no worse than any other person. It's worth giving it a try and keeping an open mind around your peers, worst thing that can happen is that you make a connection you didn't think was possible. Okay, I'll cut the bullshit, the worst thing that can happen is that you get stuck in a bunch of lame, meaningless, irritating conversations. Sure, it can grate on you at the time, or you can play their game and later on laugh at their frustrating issues and drama. It's okay to be above all that 14 year old shit, but it's not okay to let other 14 year olds know you think you're superior. Nobody likes arrogance. Keep it real and give them a chance. Some will grow out of the drama faster than others, and those are the people you'll connect with. Life's too short to write people off on first impressions. Chances are we've all blown a few ourselves.

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