BY no means am I always right or know what to do. However, I will tell you what I would do in your situation and what I know to be the most honest and helpful advice that I can give.
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Ok I am in High school and I have 3 freakin rumors going around the school about me and my best friend. This girl is telling me that me and my best friend are lesbian lovers, which is so not true, because I am straight, and now I have people talking about me, and also I have another rumor which isn't as bad, but that one is that I am going with this boy, and that I am a slut. Its going around the whole school, and it upsets me, and makes me want to cry. I don't know what I should do. I haven't had these problems, til I met this one girl. (link)
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Dear Rumors,
Unfortunately what you are going through is a part of growing up. Other people in your school are going to say mean things about you to make themselves look better and cure their boredom.
You could do just like the other advicenators suggested and lay low. Hope that it blows over in a week or two. But if it doesn't, and this girl continues to say these things then you have ever right to get back at her. You can do this several ways.
For one, the fact that she is telling other people things that are not true about you is slander or defamation of character.
In order to prove defamation, you have to be able to prove that what was said or written about you was false. If the information is true, or if you consented to publication of the material, you will not have a case. However, you may bring an defamatory action if the comments are so reprehensible and false that they effect your reputation in the community or cast aspersions on you. If you have been defamed you may seek both actual damages, to recover the harm that you have suffered, and punitive damages to punish the person who made the remark (and serve as an example to deter others). If the defamation improperly accused you of a crime or reflected on your profession, the Court or jury can assess the damages. For other types of defamation you must prove some actual damage to be able to recover.
I think you should get her phone number and call her parents. Tell them that she has been spreading lies all over school. Tell them that you can prove that her statements are untrue. Tell them that her statements are causing you severe emotional stress. Tell them that you were given legal advice and now understand that what she is doing is considered slander and you can sue her. But since she is a minor you would have to sue her parents instead. Tell them that you do not want to do this, but will unless, they can convince her to stop spreading lies.
If you don't want to do that then try this:
Write a letter to her with this in it;
Dear(Her name here)
It has come to my attention that you are telling everyone that I am a lesbian and a slut . Just because I won't sleep with you does not give you the right to spread nasty rumors that are not true. My answer is still no, and nothing you will say can change my mind. Get over it!
Sincerely,
(Your name here)
NOW, make a copy f this letter. If she doesn't stop her slander then take that copy and make several more copies. Like several hundred copies and littler the school with them. Give them to all her friends and anyone who can read. Leave them laying around for just anyone to find. Sooner or later everyone in the school will whispering about her. Don't worry, nothing in this letter is slandering her in any way.
This letter will make it look like she was spreading untrue things because she is mad at you. When she tries to deny that she wanted you to sleep with her, no one will believe her. She will get a dose of her own medicine.
I hope that whatever you decide to do, helps your situation.
Take Care :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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my questions are simple.
I'd like to see your opinion on my latest moral quandry. hypothetically put yourself in the shoes of a soldier in iraq or afghanistan, you have the fortitude to engage and destroy the average insurgent with whatever weapon you can grab, be it a bayonet, or a mark 19 grenade launcher. you are on patrol in the streets of samarra or some other craphole city, and some 12 year old boy comes around the corner with a PKM(russian assault rifle) and opens up on your squad.
1: would you open fire with the intent to destroy the target, or to injure and disarm?
2:is it right, in a moral sense, to shoot and kill this kid?
those of you who instantly say no are missing the point of this exercise. use quotes if you feel the need.
you fellas that like to act like a box of rubber dicks, please contribute.
you normal civilians are welcome to answer, i just like to let those specific groups know that their opinion, no matter how depraved, is still valuable.
thank you for your time and patience.
-gunner (link)
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I am a civilian, and I have very good morals. I know exactly what I would do in 'the soldiers' shoes. I would open fire with the intent to destroy the target, or to injure and disarm?
In some countries the legal age is 13 years old. They are considered adults. You are defending your life and the life of your squad. Kill or be killed. Yes, it is right in a moral sense, to shoot and kill this kid!! He has no problems trying to kill you. Be safe
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