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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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hey i started orhto- tri cylen about a month ago, and i finished the pack is it safe to have sex with out protection even if the guy doesnt cum in you or should i still use condoms in addition?
I use the same brand of birth control. If you've finished your first pack, you're free to have sex as you wish. They say that you should still use a condom, but my boyfriend and I don't, and he does come in me. I've been having sex and i've been on the pill for almost 8 months, and i'm not pregnant yet. :)
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ok so i am waiting on my period its supposed to come soon and i usually start on time give or take a day or two. the problem this time is i had unprotected sex about two weeks ago and im having all the symptoms of pms and everything and everything seems normal and is like its always been before i start my period but im wondering if pms is a lot like pregnancy symptoms and if im pregnant would i feel the same as if im pmsing?
It's a possibility. Everyone experiences different symptoms of pms and pregnancy. No one has exactly the same ones. If your period is still not technically late, just wait for it. I know this may seem hard, but there isn't much else you can do. Besides, I don't think you would start having pregnancy symptoms that eary into the pregnancy anyways. I'm sure you are fine, just don't stress out. Stress can delay periods; yikes.
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Well, I've asked many questions about masturbation, and people say 'it's healthy'. Then why do I feel so ashamed? My hormones are taking over my life, and I'm stuck in between telling my mom and either masturbating or not, or not telling my mom and masturbating or not. I know it's a very personal decision but I'm not swayed easily by a couple of 'it's healthy' or 'don't do it' or 'tell your mom and she'll tell you not to', ya know? I just need it flat out - what should I do?
Thankyou in advance!
Most girls do feel ashamed after masturbation. Why? I have no clue. But it's the truth. Hormones take over all teenagers life, why fight them? This is the main reason I always tell people I think they should masturbate. There is nothing wrong with it in my opinion, and it relieves stress.
But on the other hand, I wouldn't tell your mom. I tell my mom everything, don't get me wrong. But seriously, masturbation is a personal decision/choice that should be kept personal if you ask me.
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I'm giving a speech tomorrow, and it's about "my basketball court" now ive wriiten everything im going to say - EXCEPT the introuction!
which, according to my teacher, is super important!
With that said, here comes my question..
I don't want to say "hey my name is.. and im going to talk about my basketball court" i want a fun way of introducing my speech!
something about the actual game, BASKETBALL, or the basketball court..
I know this is a total challenge for you,
but you're totally a good writer..so thats why im asking.
So thank you - you are truly amazing if you help me with this.
I've been brainstorming but it's not coming to me!
thank you so much :)
for any ideas AT ALL about introducing my speech.
PS. YOUR REALLY PRETTY!
Thanks for all of those lovely comments you've presented to me; that made my day =)
Anways, you didn't give me that many details about what the story is about, if it's about just a basketball court and the game of basketball you could start it off like thsi:
"Imagine yourself standing in the middle of the gym on the court, you see your teammate on the side with the basketball. You see it's coming towards you, but an opponent is in front of you. You shift to the left, and you hear the squeeky noise of your feet on the floor. You shift to the right, and then the next thing you know, the balls in your hand and you're bouncing it on the court and running towards the net. And then bam, it sails through and the crowd starts cheering your name."
And then be like, "This is the exilerating sp? rush I get when playing basketball out on the court" Or something like that.
I don't know really, get creative and it will come to you. BTW; you may want to revise that and change some things around if you decide to use it. :)
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13/f
do you think it`s weird if someone has a really bad fetish for feet. lol i do and i just want to know what you thinkkk
Some guys/girls do. My boyfriend adores feet. If freaked me out at first, but suprisingly it's not that uncommon. Although many people hate feet, there are some who love them.
It's ok though- because usually fetishes are strange.
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hi, i`m 13 about to 14 in november & i just wanted to know how i can talk to my mom about birth control. i`ve had sex twice with the same guy though and i`ve done many other things. i just want other ways to prevent me from getting pregnany at any time. my mom doesn`t know that i`ve had sex but i`m not planning on telling her either. but i how can i talk to her about birth control?
If you don't plan on telling her the truth, the most logical thing for you to do, is tell her you would like to be put on birth control for some of the perks. As in losing a little weight [though this may not be an issue] less PMS and a lighter and shorter period. If this doesn't work, get this guy to go with you to a clinic. I think it's free, and if it isn't, it's not that much money. You don't need parental consent to get put on birth control.
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I had a urinary tract infection a little while ago. I have never had sex, but my boyfriend fingers me a lot. So I'm wondering how I got this UTI. Can you get a UTI from being fingered? What other ways can you get UTI?
I had a urinary tract infection just a few days ago. [i'm on medicine for it right now] i'm pretty sure you don't get it from anything sexual, though.
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Can you get pregnant if you use a condom? And whats a cherry pop? I read it on another persons site too and i dont know what it is.
Both questions have been answered countless times, so next time, try browsing through some past questions about sex people have asked next time. It's easier, and it's quite simple.
Can you get pregnant if you use a condom? Yes. A lot of people do, but mainly because the condom was used incorrectly in one way or another. But even when the condom is used correctly, it's still only 97 or 98 percent effective. This may seem like a lot, but it's really not when you consider the odds. When having sex you always have to think and seek out all the outcomes, and yes. Becoming pregnant is one of them. So, if you plan on having sex, always use a condom and try finding another means of birth control as well. Like the pill.
And when some says something along the lines of, "popping my cherry" or whatever, it's referring to the hymen. And thin layer of skin over your vagina that rips when it's being penetrated on. Usually having sex or doing something sexual causes the hymen or "cherry" to pop. Meaning you are no longer a virgin. But having your cherry popped doesn't have to result from anything dealing with sex. You can pop it by any sort of strenuous exercises or sport.
If you have any more questions, feel free to leave me on again. :)
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Do you have a myspace?
No.
I did at one point, but I deleted it because of the drama it brings. I think i've stated this in my brief bio if you would like to take a look. I've stated about all there is to say, so if you have any other questions about something I do or have, or my opinion on something, you are more than welcome to look there. If you don't find the question you wanted answered in there, you are also more than welcome to send me another one in my inbox.
Just out of curiousity, why do you want to know?
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okay what if you dont get your period that often like rarely because your unhealthy or something, then if you have intercourse, how are you supposed to know if you ahve missed yourperiod if you get it like every four monthes, also if you pop your cherry should you take a pregnancy test.?
First of all, use a condom or another form of birth control if you plan on having sex at all. That way, there should be no reason as to why you would think you are pregnant. If you do however think you are pregnant, wait a month even if you usually do go longer without a period, and then take a pregancy test. It should come out accurate, and if not you can go to a clinic and they will give you an even more accurate answer. And for you other question, you can have your cherry popped by many ways other than just having sex. You can easily do it by exercising, running, and many other things. So unless you have sex, there is no reason to take a pregancy test.
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my boy loves to eat me out. i love it, it feels great and the orgasms are amazing but i was just wonderin about some other opinions on it. have you ever been eaten out? is it ok to scream or moan or push your hips up in his face? what do you like about it? pleaze get back to me!
Yes I have been. It's perfectly ok to scream, moan, or even push your hips in his face. Guys like it when you enjoy yourself, they really do.
And it's great for us girls. We can show our emotions and it's the one time guys actually want to see them. Haha.
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I was at a party not too long ago, and I got so fucked up. There was tons of alcohol, pills, and a few joints there, so I took advantage. I regret it so terribly bad because I ended up having sex with 4 guys in 6 hours. That was the first time I'd done anything "bad." I only did it because I was heartbroken and needed to get my mind off of it. I had sex with too many guys in too little time, and now everyone knows about it and thinks I'm a whore. Maybe I am. My best friend is mad because I let her boyfriend eat me out, but I was messed up. I didn't know what I was doing. But it has ruined my reputation and now I have no friends at all. What should I do?
Before I say anything, I want you to i'm not trying to judge you in my advice, i'm simply telling you what I think you should do.
The best thing for you to do right now is stay away from everyone. You need to fix yourself before you try fixing your friendships. This means no more alcohol, pills, and marijuana. This may seem to drastic for you, because you are obviously a teenager [as am i] and I guess some thinks that makes it ok to get messed up. It's not. I'm not trying to be some poster child and be an Above the Influence ad, i'm just telling you the truth. I used to do drugs to. I was pretty messed up, and I didn't see the serious damage I was doing to myself. I've been off drugs for almost a year now, and i'm so proud of myself for that. My friends that still do drugs look terrible! Drugs do that to you.
What you did was wrong, and I think you know that so i'm not going to critizize you for it. Just know that having sex with 6 guys in one night, does justify other to call you a whore. I'm not saying it's right, and i'm not personally calling you one, but you obviously have to see where they are coming from. In your question, you said, "I had sex with too many guys in too little time, and now everyone knows about it and thinks I'm a whore. Maybe I am." You flat out just called yourself a whore. If you say that, it gives others the right to say that. You messed up, and now you have to fix it. How? Only you can decide. But for starters, i'd stay away from those parties, drugs, and guys.
You said you did this because you were heartbroken. That's why I started. I thought it would get my mind off of the pain I was feeling if I just got a little stoned. I was wrong. It did nothing except delay the inevitable. You've apparently seen what drugs can do to you, and it's not fun. Being heartbroken is no excuse for doing what you did, even though I did the same thing. I was wrong. You were wrong. It happens, and now what you have to do is make it right.
You've hurt your best friend badly. The best thing you can do for her right now is give her space. Drugs is no excuse for what you let her boyfriend do to you. I don't care what you were on, you knew what you were doing, and you knew what would happen. You can deny it to yourself, and you can deny it to your friend. But I know the truth. I've done just about everything, and I know what it's like. You have to make your friend realize how truely sorry you are though, tell her there was no excuse for what you did, and you know that as well as I do. Just apologize, she either forgives your or she don't. Just remember, a lot of people can forgive but they can't forget. And I doubt your best friend will.
Good Luck though, if you need any further advice, or if you just need someone to talk to, leave me one in my inbox, email, or icq.
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So the other day, I was with a guy && we made out while watching movies. later on we got more into in..he licked my neck while rubbing my clit & that area over my clothes (i had a wet spot tho..) and i rubbed his dick over his clothes. what do you consider this to be? base wise or anything.. we're not sure what to call it (haha) thanksss.
Making out is first base. And if your rubbed your genitals together, that would be considered dry humping or dry sex. But seeing as how you guys just touched each other through your clothes, I would simply call it messing around. I'm pretty sure it doesn't have a technical term, and i'm almost positive it isn't a base.
Hope I helped in one way or another. If you need anything else, just leave me another one.
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hi. im a 23 year old woman. i wanted to know if its harmful to swallow semen. can you even tell me what are the contents of semen? thankyou.
by the way im from United Arab Emirates(Dubai).
It's not harmful to swallow semen at all, no. But that doesn't mean it's actually enjoyable to do so. It's mainly for the guys pleasure, the girls just kind of there to do it.
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How long after conception does pregnancy begin to show?
i mean like the bump...
It varies from girl to girl usually depending on their size. Smaller girls start showing faster.
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What are the signs of pregnancy?
All of them would really help. Even the less common ones.
If you think you may be pregnant and have any of these pregnancy symptoms, be sure to take an at home test to be sure. It is important to receive prenatal care immediately, if the result is positive. Pregnancy symptoms differ from girl to girl, so keep that in mind.
Early Signs & Symptoms of Pregnancy.
1)The first and most common being a missed period. This is when most suspect they are pregant, though some claim to know before hand.
2)Tender and swollen breasts.
3)Morning sickness.
4)Fatigue. [being tired]
5)Frequent urination.
want anymore?
leave me one in my inbox.
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Me and my friend were "fooling around" and he touched his penis to make sure that he didnt have any pre cum on himself. Then after he did he wiped his hands on his boxers and a few minutes later he fingered me. He is very honest and I believe him when he said that there was nothing on his hands but if there was a little bit is it possible to get pregnant. I mean we are talking about almost nothing. probably nothing. I am four days late for my period. But I highly doubt that its because of that. I am very stressed out and worried about many things right now. So I need your advice what do you think my chances are? THANKS
I doubt you are pregnant. I mean there is always that 0.01% chance that you are with anything involving sexual contact but realistically speaking, most likely not.
Stress plays a big factor in the cycle of a girl's period, and a lot of the time it can delay them. So the best thing for you to do is calm down and think about what you are asking. If a guy precums [which even though does have sperm in it, it's not a very high count] wipes his hands off on his pants and then waits a few minutes [sperm does eventually die, but not as soon as it hits the hair in the event that you've heard this little wive's tale] and then fingered you with no actual penis/vagina intercourse.
Still think your pregnant?
didn't think so ;)
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hi im 16/female
ok so today i was jumping on my neighbors trampoline when i felt wet. i thought i just peed a little but when i got home there was blood everywhere. this is strange because i had my period a week and a half ago. i asked my friend and she thinks my cherry somehow popped. did it?
When I first read the question, my assumption was that your cherry popped. But in the additional information you stated that you are still bleeding. That's not a normality in this case, so i'm honestly not so sure. Maybe you just have an irregular period, and you are once again on it. Don't quote me on this though, because i'm not so sure. But since you've talked to your mom about this [which is very good] she should get it all taken care of by taking you to the doctor, so don't worry.
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i've never had sex... so i don't know why i'm freaking out. but i'm fifteen and terrified that some random sperm may have seeped into me or something, though that's not very likely, i'm just PARANOID. plus, i had a cold, and now my body aches and im freezing, but i think i just have a virus. i'm just scared because i didn't get my period this month. and as nasty as it sounds, i'm sure my brother is having sex with his girlfriend, and i masturbate with my hands, so. terrified. i've been having my period for a little over two years, and it's not really regular. i miss a month sometimes, or for instance it will come on the 22nd of june, skip a month, come on the 5th of july, come the 19th of august. who knows. but i'm totally freaking out. sorry, sorry, sorry for seeming so immature. but mostly i need reassurance that this isn't possible... i haven't been throwing up or anything. just. ugh. help?
Periods come and go for many reasons. Stress, as you said can be one of them. You've already stated that you have irregularities in your period, so don't freak out. You are not pregnant. You are a virgin. And unless semen as entered you directly by penetration, you are NOT pregnant.
Breathe. You're fine.
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what happens if a yeast infection goes untreated?
i'm sorry it took me so long to get back to you. i've been very busy with school starting back & all.
honestly i'm not so sure about your question so don't quote me on what i'm going to tell you. from what i've heard, 2 different things can happen from an untreated yeast infection. here's what i've heard:
a yeast infection eventually goes away but it always requires some sort of treatment to reduce the amount of yeast. this may involve frequent washing, cleaning, or whatever. [don't douche; it's bad for you] if you don't clean yourself very often, the burning symptoms can be fairly intense.
but i've also heard that if a yeast infection goes untreated, you can have pregnancy complications or problems with the results of a pap smear. some even say if you leave it untreated, there is a higher risk for HIV or other stds.
So to be on the safe side, if you think you have a yeast infection, go to the doctor. it's the safest and most practical thing to do. it happens to everyone, at least 1 person has some sort of vaginal infection in there lifetime. go get it checked out.
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