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So 25/female
I used to think living with a guy for a roommate would be so much less drama but I was wrong.
I live with my best friend, well the guy I thought was my best guy friend. And lately he is becoming extremely rude and insulting and I don't know what to do anymore because we have another 5 months of our lease and neither of us can afford to break it.
I don't know if this started around the time I rejected his advances romantically. Well actually it was more sexual advances than romance because he doesn't do romance. And he knows I don't do casual sex so I don't know why he even tried. He knows me better than that.
But anyway there is specifically this one thing that he's doing lately that drives me absolutely insane and I've tried ignoring it, I've tried responding, I've tried just being nice and I lose every single time. What he does is everytime there's people over or even when there aren't but not as often, anytime I say something or make any sort of move or even come out of my room hell loudly joke with me asking me why I'm so angry all the time. Or I say something and he'll respond in front of everyone "don't get mad" and then him and his friends all laugh. It drives me crazy because I'm not mad not even a little bit but if I say that he'll respond "it's ok you don't have to be mad" or they'll just laugh more. If I ignore it they'll take it as "see she's pissed now you got her mad" and laugh if I smile and say something nice they'll still take it as I'm mad. I don't have an out.
I tried speaking to him about it in private and his response is the typical "I'm just messing with you Ashley relax, don't be so sensitive"
And I even tried not to care. I'm learning about Buddhism, meditation, psychology, how to not let things get to you. But when every move you make they Call you the angry girl and laugh it really ruins my day no matter how happy I am that day.
It's so stupid and immature. So I guess my question is what can I do or say to get him to shut up. Like a really good comeback or action I can take to get him to leave me alone until I can move out. It's really stressing me out.
Thanks in advance.
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There are several option open to you.
1) be laid back, carefree and make a lot of jokes to undermine the belief that you are a angry person. this will take time to change public opion
2) defuse the joke by fainting ignorance.
roommate: "why are you angry?"
ashley: "what?"
roommate: "why are you angry?"
ashley: "am i?" looking down at your self to check yourself
roommate: "yes"
(as some point this will end a boring conversation if not make a joke)
ashely: "well, if i am angry, it probable because of this boring conversation"
3) If you want you can get mean about it.
roommate: "why are you angry?"
ashley "Sorry, I'm just tired of guys with small dicks hitting on me" (make sure to have a smile on your face)
there are a huge number of ways to gracefully deal with this problem but hopeful these ideas help :)
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