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Hello,
I'm 26 years old and I'm ready to have a baby. I have a master's degree in education and I have a great job. I'm financially stable right now. I own a house. I have the space, time, and resources to have a baby. I got my period when I was 9 years old. I don't know how long I'll be fertile enough to get pregnant. I'm ready to be a mom. But, I have some issues with relationships right now.
First of all, I have some issues with sex, overall. For the most part, I find sex to be very painful. It's not something I enjoy. I have been diagnosed with a condition called vaginismus, which means that my vagina pretty much rejects sex. It closes up when a penis is trying to enter. I find the idea of oral sex repulsive. I don't understand why anyone would want to stick someone else's genitals in their mouth. I don't mean to sound insulting to other people, as I know that pretty much everyone does it. But, I'm just trying to point out how disgusting I find it!
To be honest, I don't think anyone would want to marry me with these issues. Who would want to marry a girl who doesn't want to give them a blow job? I've thought about this for a while, and while I'm ready to give up the dream of getting married, I'm not ready to give up becoming a mom. It's what I've always wanted. But, without a partner to make babies with, I'm left with the option of adoption or a donor.
I am adopted. I'm very okay with adopting a child. But, it's extremely difficult, and as a single parent, it is even more difficult to adopt. It's actually nearly impossible. A lot of people think it's easy, but they are actually very misinformed. First of all, it costs a lot of money. My parents nearly paid $40,000 in legal fees to adopt me as an infant. As a single parent, that too would be a lot to pay in legal fees! Not to mention that single adopters are at the bottom of the waiting list. But, as an adoptee, I could relate to the child in ways that maybe other people could not. However, with the donor, I have some fears. I know that donors can father a maximum of 20 children or something like that. That's quite a bit of children. It seems like that would be traumatic for someone to know that they have 20 siblings out there and not know who they are. I know my biological family, so I don't have the issue of being afraid to marry someone I'm related to or something like that. It's a little different being adopted because even if you don't know who your siblings are, most people wouldn't assume they have 20.
My question is this. Have any of you used a donor? What is your experience like? How would you describe your child's feelings towards it?
Any information is helpful.
Thank you! Best!
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Hey i would just like to say me and my girlfriend only have sex occasionally it is not a big deal for me i am ok with masterbation. It is just having someone always there for you when you need them and i am almost positive you could find love out there if not just a person who you can trust rely on and keep you company. I am not saying i am the most attractive male in the world or even in my town but i have had my fair share of girlfriends but me and my girlfriend now have been together for 11 years i am 30 she is 42. I know she will always be there if i need her and sex is just something we both find messy and exhausting. For the little pleasure it gives it just seems like a lot of clean up afterwards. Good luck hope you find someone who is right for you : )
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thank you so much for this! it really gave me a lot of hope, especially coming from a guy! I really appreciate it. God bless :)
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