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im 22yrs will turn 23 next june. i am an average guy to the core.. like really average that goes or my looks to spirit. still living with my parents because no balls to move out. i attempted college but couldn't even finish the first year. i want to do IT or Cyber security i do find that interesting. but im not that smart or rather i know im very lazy just not willing to care enough to try my best. though i took 4 attempts at college and the last term i attend i couldn't handle it so i just stopped showing up. so i failed and my gpa went from 3.0 to 1.4. i dont think i can get financial aid anymore because of it... my parents cant help but want to help as much they can. i cant do that to them my father works 75-80hrs a week and my mother works 40 i have two little sister age 16 and 10... with that said yeah we are not poor but live a hard life. my parents never take time for themselves and i feel like worthless son... i love them so much. i attempted to work and help and college ... but all that i failed at....i really gave an effort but i work or go to college for few months then i feel so much pressure .. fear... anxiety that i cant take it and i quit. i have friends who are doing good now and try to help but i dont want that...i wanna be independent but i dont know how i can be. most of the time i rather be left alone i dont always like to hang with my friends i rather be on my room.. yeah iknow in my comfort zone...pathetic.
things i want ...
i wanna get my BS but dont know how i can pay for it. cant do much with a $9hr wage. only jobs i can get are with that pay rate.
i wanna move out. so my parents have one less kid to worry about and feed even tho its 22yrs old.
have my BS use it to get decent job.. i dont need a a lot of money i just want a comfortable life where i can help myself and my parents.
with alll this in my head i still dont know where to start what to do .. how to do it .. how to pay for college..can i get over my laziness or my anxiety and get my head out of my a@@ and get to work?
hate on this... tell me i am a loser or give me advise anything is appreciated. (link)
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Sounds like you want people to tell you you're a loser. But why do that when you are more successful than anyone at doing that. I am not going to tell you to think positively, as that is just a foolish platitude. You need to see the connection between the negative why you talk about and see yourself and using that as an excuse to continue in the same way. if you keep labeling yourself as lazy, you will continue to live up to that characterization.
You do seem to have a genuine concern for your parents and their well-being. That's a good quality. So, if you won't get off the dime for yourself, do it for them, until you can work up to doing it for you.
As for paying for college, go to a local or community college and discuss that with them. They are much more qualified to know what assistance is available. Gather information and stop worrying about the end result. Just get going in the process.
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i understand what you are saying. i guess i do have self-esteem probelms. i try and not label myself as lazy.. fake it till i make it right?
but hey thank you.
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