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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Dear Ms Invisible,
Apparently you are in a relationship that you are not even being seen in. The problem here is that your BF seems to be living in his past and can't move on because he never really dealt with the loss. Sometimes we are brought to people's lives to help them see that. If you want to stay in the relationship then help him move forward but if this continues then you need to move on because you cannot be constantly competing against a ghost. It's not fair to you and especially to the future you want to build. Honoring her is one thing but by living as if she were still there is disrespecting you and he cannot move forward with you and you cannot live your life like that. It is up to you about what you want to did here so figure out if he's worth it but also realize that you are as well.
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