Hello, everyone! My name is Natalie, and my favorite thing to do is explore the complexities of the human experience and mind. The philosophies and situations of others are fascinating to me, so I'm very open minded. I am a pacifist, writer, singer, introvert, actress, and thinker. I have the most experience in aiding people with depression, social anxiety, and confusion with sexuality or gender, but I'm open and willing to answer any questions you throw my way. My goal here is to always be genuine, kind, and gentle because I believe that the well being of other human beings does not improve with tough love or false friendship. It improves with love and understanding. I look forward to talking to all of you wonderful people :)
Website: One Love
Gender: Female
Location: Colorado
Age: 17
Member Since: March 13, 2015
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Hi. Okay, so I have other friends too besides my bestie of besties. So, I have Jamie, my #1 sister, but I also have like 2 other best friends. But it's SOOOO hard for me to hang out with my other friends because Jamje always gets butt hurt and pissed off. Then she ignores me and says stuff like "maybe they should be your new best friend" or "you never hang out with me anymore" when I'm like, ALWAYS with her... it's been going on for quite a while and I just want to have fun with everyone without losing friends along the way... HELP!!! (link)
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It sounds like your best friend has some separation anxiety. Maybe she has watched other people in her life walk out on her, and now she's paranoid that you will too. This is not healthy, but it would make sense. If you can, talk to her about this in a calm fashion (maybe write her a letter if that's easier). Try not to be accusatory, just tell your side of the story and how you've been feeling lately. Maybe tell her you'd like to be friends with everyone, and you'd like for her to be friends with them too. Ask her about what's going on in her personal life and try to understand any situation she describes to you. Put yourself in her shoes, but don't let her walk all over you either. If she really doesn't listen to you, you might have to reconsider your friendship with her. I really hate to say it, because it's a really hard thing to do, but sometimes people grow apart. And that's ok. Over time, friendships tend to fall apart a little bit, and that's natural. I'm not saying that you should want to stop being her friend or that it's easy to give up a friendship, but sometimes it's healthy. If she is smothering you, that's not fair.
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Hi thanks for the advice.. you know, now that I think about it, she DOES have Separation anxiety... she told me once that she needs people to make her feel better and she o doesn't like to be alone... and she was adopted and.. wow... i think U helped me totally understand more. I mean, I understood but j didn't.. if that makes sense. Anyways, thank you!
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