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Hey guys! I just started college 3 weeks ago! I am excited to be here and to learn but I also want to become more social with girls. I am a very shy guy, I have a hard time making new friends even with other guys. I never know what to talk about with people and never know how to get a small conversation going with people unless it is by accident. All of my old friends from high school I made were kind of on accident believe it or not. To me it seems like pure luck I met people I got along with and connected with.
I dated some girls in high school but i kind of met them by luck and didn't really go out of my way to introduce myself to them and make small talk to get their phone numbers or anything special. It kind of happened by luck if that makes sense?
Anyways, I was hoping to get some advice from people on how I can approach some girls that are in classes of mine, girls that I haven't had classes with that I just kind of see that I think are cute that I would like to talk to. I met this one guy here at my school that picks up girls daily like no one's business... it makes me jealous of how easy he can get girls and I would love to just meet girls even as friends.
Any advice would be helpful! Hopefully this little rant made sense haha. Thanks!!! (link)
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I'm a sophomore in college, and I can tell you some of the things I would like guys to do or they have done to get to know me.
1.) Sometimes, it's nice to have a guy come right up and say hello. I play pool at my university's rec center, and guys always offer to shoot a game or two with me if I'm playing by myself. That being said, for example: if you see a girl working on an art piece or carrying an instrument, ask her about it. We women love talking about activities or topics that we enjoy.
2.) While sitting next to a girl you might be interested in class, crack a joke or say something witty as you or her sit down. It shows that you WANT to engage in conversation with her. Each day, talk a little more until you feel comfortable, and then maybe ask her if she wants to get a coffee or hang out after class sometime (or even that day). Girls love it, and that way you'll know if she is interested or not.
3.) Confidence is key. Even if you are nervous, appear confident in your words and mannerisms. Also, if a girl does agree to hang out with you one day, don't immediately make plans for next time unless she brings it up. If she is a texter, you can text throughout the week and randomly mention hanging out again. If she isn't much of a technological communicator, wait a few classes and then ask again. Girls don't like a guy who is always readily available, whether we admit it or not. It shows you have a life outside of us.
All this being said, I'm just speaking from personal experiences as a college female! Good luck!
~Holly
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I will try your advice thank you :)
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