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So I had this "best friend" for 11 years. All in all I don't think she's a bad person but over the years it seemed to me like she was just using me, only talking to me when she needed help or advice. I had/have an eating disorder and when she found out, she ignored me because she thought I was being complicated. I then lied to her that I'm good again,basically hiding my problems. The thing is that her boyfriend asked me if she was cheating on him and I told him yes (because she was). It just felt like the right thing to do because she was being horrible to him most of the time, not allowing him to do anything, basically putting him on a leash. When she found out I told him she said that our friendship is over. I don't know how I should feel, I mean she never really felt like a true friend anyways. Otherwise I'm still kind of sad about this because she was the only person I knew for this long and grew up with. I know that telling her boyfriend maybe wasn't quite the right thing but I just felt sorry for him and I didn't want him living a lie. How can I get over this? I'm pretty sure our friendship is over. Should I be sad about it? My boyfriend keeps telling me that I didn't really lose much because she was never acting like a good friend anyways. I'm also really hurt because in the end she made it seem like I'm the horrible person, even though I was always there for her, even though she only talked to me when she needed me. I helped her through so many bad things in her life, I used to talk to her for hours on the phone, just to make her feel better. And now she's the one saying that she can't be friends with someone like me. I'm just so angry right now.. (link)
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I had a similar situation with my bestfriend but mine wasn't horrible or cheating on her boyfriend or anything but the things she would say to me would just be completely wrong it made me feel like I was worthless and ty away buthen I tried so hard to sta we have a group and our other friends were mine first and I didn't want to leave them because I would basically had no friends but when we would hangout alone she would be totally normal so instead of talking to her I just brushed it off then it went to a point where the only one a could trust was my cousin and I kept posting stuff like why cant I live with her and that moment where youre ignoring someone but they don't even notice and then one night I just cracked I was alone at home and I just start crying and crying and then I finally got text and calls from her asking if she was the problem and shes so sorry and then we talked and now we are all better im pretty sure you are in a different situation as I was but no matter what talking does help a lot even if she doesn't want to talk to you you talk to her and just have her listen tell her how you feel she only talked to you when she needed you and say all the things that you feel I know for a fact if I would have talked to my friend then I wouldn't have cracked and if you feel you wanna talk to her about hwat happened and not be friends make that clear just say like I do feel bad about what I did but I don't regret it because you were being a bad girlfriend to him and a bad friend to me and now that I cleared this up I don't want to talk to you
hoped I helped
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I already told her these things. It didn't make me feel a lot better to be honest, because I know that she didn't take me seriously. But thank you for the advice. :)
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