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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)

I cannot imagine having had anal sex and still considering yourself a virgin -

Using the technical definition - if your hymen is still whole, you are a virgin. So if you have never been vaginally penetrated, then yes, you are a virgin, technically.

Why is staying a virgin important to you? I am trying to imagine a reason where participating in anal sex would not mean basically the same thing as virginal, and I just cannot.

You can still be infected with diseased anally. You are still sharing the most intimate activities with someone when you have sex anally. You are still risking pregnancy - although it is much less likely - when you have sex anally - (because when he ejaculates, the liquid will drip into the vaginal area and could possibly still enter the uterus - very, very unlikely, but a risk) -

Sharing the intimacy of any kind of sex is something that can only be truly appreciated when it is done with someone who you so close to, that when you are with that person, you are as comfortable as you are when you are by yourself.

Sex, in any form - vaginal, oral, or anal - is never as meaningful or as wonderfully magically and intimately transforming - as it is when you experience it with the one person on the planet who you know so well and so deeply, that you only feel truly at home when you are with them. When you can know someone in such a way that no matter how they change - you love them for their soul - you love not who they might be at this certain time and place, but you love the person they were on the day the born - who is the same as the person they will be on the day they day, and the person they stay every day of their life - that deep and intimate part of person that never changes, even while they learn and grown and their looks and opinions and habits and likes and dislikes change -

And even then - sex in any form cannot be truly enjoyed and understood in a meaningful way, until the person you are with, loves you in that same way.

When you just know - without doubt - that they are there for you and simply always will be, and that you have found your other half, and thinking that there might be someone else out there for you is just - not possible.

Don't settle. Wait for it; it's worth the wait. And whether they penetrate your vagina or not - that's a detail that loses all meaning when you start to really understand what sex is really all about.

So my answer, if you have had anal sex with someone, but have never been penetrated vaginally?

Technically your still a *vaginal* virgin.

Morally? Mentally? Psychologically and Emotionally? No - I'm sorry, but you are most certainly *not* a virgin.

Good luck to you, and when you do find that person I describe - it will be like you have never had sex before; you will wonder what it was you were doing all those other times when you *thought* it was sex...

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. I believe that I am no virgin now. Somebody said that if being a virgin is having a hymen still then boys can never be virgins. This is making much senses to me. I have now got the doctor say my rash is herpes since I did the anal sexing. :(
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