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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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I understand where you are coming from. My family consists of alcoholics and drug users, when they get drunk they fight. The majority of the policemen in town know my family by name. All of my 4 sisters had children when they were not ready, with guys that don’t want the responsibility. I’m the only one who didn’t do any of those things because I saw how their loves turn out. I’m always scared to bring friends over. I never tell them about my boyfriends or him about them either because I am embarrassed. I worry about what he would think.
What I think you should do is talk to your husband about your concerns. He’s your husband not your boyfriend. He should know a little something about your family already. If you do decide to move back, limit your contact with your family and make yourself or your kids seem busy. Join some classes or volunteer so when they ask to hang out or see you, you’ll have an excuse.
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I really appreciate you telling me that I am not the only one to ever go through something like this. That helped me a lot! Thank you!
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