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Q: My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else?

this is soo great that i got this question because i went through this same thing....

so you could go both ways with this. talk him into leaving on you guys own being adults and just relying on each other. But sometimes things happen for a reason maybe your going back there to talk some smart into that little girl head or into her parents even if its not your place you still have a voice put it to work. the drinking part.. where you will be living tell them " i dont want alcoholic beverages brought to my home" and if you drink tell them you will bring alcohol if you want to drink that day... tell them dont come over wasted when you are trying to have a serious talk but dont say it how im saying it they might take it as wrong but say it as nice as possible

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Thank you fro letting me know I am not the only one to ever go through this. That actually helped most of all. Want to know how to make waves in your family? When they show up at your house drunk and you tell them to leave, dial 911 and report them for driving drunk. ;)

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