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Hi, I'm 19/F. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years now but our relationship has been kind of private due to my parents. They are not allowing me to start dating until I get at least a bachelors degree but I love my boyfriends so much. He wants me to tell my parents about us so do I but I'm scared that they'll get mad and start drama. His mother knows about us and I just want to be able to tell my parents about anything. What should I do? (link)
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It\'s unrealistic to think that you\'re not going to date until after you have a BA... You\'ll be a really real adult by then...
Easiest thing to do, if YOU (not your bf... he doesn\'t matter in this scenario) if YOU want to tell your parents that you\'re seeing him... here\'s a good way...
Tell your parents you\'d like to go to dinner somewhere... drive separate from them and show up with your bf. You introduce him and say, \"I want you to get to know him, because I\'ve been seeing him for two years, and I don\'t like that I\'ve had to hide him from you.\"
You have to be super adult. If they say something that upsets you, you have to hold down the rage and sadness, and just tell them, \"He hasn\'t had any effect my studies yet, so I don\'t see what my BA has to do with our relationship.\"
BUT YOU HAVE TO STAY CALM.
You have to act like an adult. You\'re TELLING THEM that this has been happening and it\'s going to continue... you\'re not ASKING THEM if it\'s okay. You\'ve proven it\'s okay. You\'re showing them how you\'re a responsible adult, but that you also have a life of your own.
The more adult and calm you are, the less you respond to anything negative they might say with rage or upset, and the less nervous you can manage to seem, the more seriously they\'ll take you. They just want what\'s best for you, but you\'re growing up, and they\'ll have to deal with that.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you so much for you advice and guidance. Your words are very insightful, I will heed them!
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