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So, this weekend just gone I had sex with a guy. Him and his girlfriend were split up at the time and he said they weren't getting back together so I didn't see much of a problem. But the next day he said they sorted things out but he didn't tell her about me and him.
I'm really not comfortable about this as I'm friends with alot of her friends so I'm gunna see her about alot and I hate keeping secrets and lying.
I've tried persuading him, but said I won't say a word until he says something to her 'cause she should really hear it from him not me or someone else. But this also means I can't talk to any of my friends about it, which sucks.
He won't tell her though as she has alot of family problems at the moment and doesn't think she'd be able to handle it and isn't sure what she'd do (guessing he means self harm etc).
Some sort of help would be great as I'm really not keen on this situation and can't chat to anyone! Thank you! (link)
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He\'s not gonna tell her... ever... unless she pisses him off and he wants to hurt her... That\'s how cheating works...
So... you have options...
You can tell her, but all it\'s going to accomplish it that she\'ll be hurt, he\'ll be mad, you\'ll be labelled \"the other woman\" which often comes with the title of \"hobag,\" and everything will be chaotic and awful.
You can tell your friends... which will result in similar consequences as the previous option... because, let\'s face it, ain\'t no one can keep they trap shut.
You can NOT tell her or anyone... which will make you uncomfortable for a while... and then it will fade off, except when you see that guy, at which point you will remember he is a scumbag.
Been here, done this... That girl is now my sworn enemy. All the guilt stuck to me. All of it. That guy got off so free they dated for years afterward. I lost a lot of friends... it\'s not worth it.
Do what you will, but in general, that guy is an asshat that used you, and thinks you\'re gonna keep your mouth shut because he told you to. I don\'t like that and I\'d have to say something or hold it over his head and manipulate him... He shouldn\'t get away with it. But you shouldn\'t destroy your social life for him either.
I dunno how evil you are, but I am the brand that would use this opportunity to suck that man dry... money, favors, whatever.
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Rating: 5
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Completely agree, thank you.
I'm not much of a bitch, hence why I'm not keen on letting her know myself. I'm not bothered by being used as for me it was a one night stand which I'm happy with, but I'd at least like to freely be able to talk about it as I did nothing wrong! Quite keen on making him feel like a guilty scumbag though!
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