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I had a dream about this boy I know that lives in my area. He's very nice polite and always comes up to greet me when he sees me however he's only 16 and Im 24 and I had a dream that I was in love with him. It freaks me out I feel like a pedophile what should I do?
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Don't think there's much danger of you being a potential predatory paedophile based on this. The subconscious mind (which is simply a 'lower' part of our brain which is not responsible for our deliberate, willed actions and does not 'talk to us directly' in the same thoughts/word pictures way as the conscious mind) does keep active, 'motoring away' as you might say during sleep. The subjects are not generally believed to be entirely 'random'. They are based on SOMETHING. But our minds do work by a process (unique to humans it is believed, no animal is known to be capable of it, and no computer has yet simulated it)called 'Random Association'. And it's partly why apes (our closest relative) still live up trees while we've been to the moon. Thus our dreams will usually contain 'scrambled' or 'coded' symbolism in their content, not direct and literal content. Dreams are also widely believed to act as a 'safety-valve' in which we confront situations (via coded scenaria) that we keep 'pushing down' because we don't want to deal with them right now. The subconscious keeps popping them back up in an attempt to force us to confront them (broadly speaking). Sorry this is getting to be a bit of a lecture!! At a guess? A bit of what psychologists term 'transference' or 'projection' might be driving this one. You have a partly-realised, and a slightly uncomfortable 'feeling' that this lad fancies YOU. Uncomfortable because of the age difference. If you 'loved him back' this would have hints of paedophilia (which we're rightly not comfortable with). ps. In most of Europe and certainly the UK where I live the age of sexual consent is 16. We're not exactly a backward, third-world country! So you're not having inappropriate sexual feelings towards a child. If I called a typical 16 y.o British lad a child he'd give me a right load of verbal abuse!
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thanks for the lecture it helped a lot because i was really worried
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