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A little background, my boyfriend and I are 24 and 25. A month ago he got his second DUI. He does not have the means to pay for a lawyer so I offered to help. I gave my card to him to give to the lawyer but I never signed anything allowing my permission and what not.
Anyway, today I find out my BF has lied to me for about the millionth time (my fault I suppose for sticking around). I became so livid and the first thing I could think to do was to text him and tell him I am canceling the payment to the lawyer. So, I e-mailed the lawyer and got the card canceled. I have calmed down a lot since and feel like the biggest bitch in the world for doing that. I feel that I overreacted and am looking for advice on how to fix it. Thought about emailing the lawyer explaining I just didn't want anything charged till I could read an agreement. I don't know what to do just feel bad for actually going through with it.
I understand my BF was in the wrong for lying but ultimately I could have reacted differently. Just need help please. (link)
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It sounds like your boyfriend has put you though quite a bit with his lies. I wouldn't stress too much about how you reacted. It was a complete and fair human reaction. Don't feel guilty for canceling, when you were the one to offer him the help in the first place.
If you really do feel like you've overreacted, then try giving the lawyer a call and like you said, telling him you wanted to read an agreement or have knowledge in the process and what's going on before being charged. It's only fair that you understand what's going on too if you're going to be the one paying him.
I would not feel guilty or feel bad about how you handled this. It's sounds like you've been through a lot of stuff with him and have stuck by him this whole time.
All you did was reach a point where enough was enough. Hopefully this shows him how much you love him and how much you are willing to help him, all in return for honesty.
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haven't logged on in forever, just saw this and i appreciate how logically you answered this. we are still together. thank you
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