Member Since: February 20, 2014
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Last Update: February 20, 2014
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I'm trying to wrap my head around this. I've read why men have affairs, and this man does not fall into any category. He's in his 50's, I'm in my 40's, so it's not like I'm some young, hot, woman. In fact, I am not attractive at all (even worse with out clothes on). He loves his wife, he's told me many times, he would never leave her. I'm not exciting, I am not confident and have very low self-esteem, so, it's not like I bring anything to the table. He and his wife still have an active sex life, she doesn't make him mad, they have two wonderful sons and are the perfect couple. He says he has never cheated on his wife and feels guilty doing it (which I know I'm going to hear in the comments, he's lying, but for sake of argument, assume he is telling the truth). Yet, we've met a few times for sex, talked and spent the day together, so you can't say it was just for the sex. He and his wife still go out, he talks fondly of her, they don't have any financial problems. It's not like he wants to leave her. I would think, if a man is going to have an affair, he would reach for the sky, not for some loser. (link)
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Guys who look mainly for sex in women actually TARGET insecure women. They can sense it. My advice, stay clear of this man. Wait for the guy that wants more than just sexual intercourse, but one that wants you for you. One that can see past your insecurities, and knows how to bring you higher. Now you said you're in your 40's, and I understand it may get lonely, you want company, and you want that sense of love and support-be confident. Confidence is sexy. Try to stay out of this unfaithful marriage situation, it'll only leave you in the dirt. At the end of the day, when you catch feelings, who will he choose, his wife of many years, or a fling? Think about it.
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Rating: 5
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You are so right! Thank you for taking the time to respond to my question.
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