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I'm thirteen years old. I have identified as a girl for most of my life, but I have felt rather confused lately.
I feel like I have two genders, if that makes any sense. I sometimes feel like a girl, but there are many times when I feel, er, gender-neutral I guess.
If it helps, I am attracted to girls . . . I just don't see guys in that way. And I prefer to wear gender-neutral clothes.
I guess my question is, why do I feel like this? And does this mean something?
Thanks for any advice! (link)
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I'm no expert on overcoming this, what i do is accept it. I have the same problem, call myself a tomboy for it, like girls, am in the closet, love guys (as friends!), and am planning to wear a suit to my formal dance coming up. People say i shouldn't dress up as a guy, and i guess the point i'm trying to make is that you shouldn't be classified as any gender, i'm just dressing up as not a guy, not a girl, but me. That kind of thing should be what's most important to you.
And your attraction to girls, of course it means something, it means you've found that girls are easier on your heart, and in the end, the people who are going to be there for you. Most of all, it's not about who you're attracted to, because that all fades out when you find who you love.
I bet when you were a kid you liked cars and not barbies, you were the dragon, not the prince, or the princess. Don't worry about it, you're not the only one, i'm an example. Girl, people like us, we can't be classified because we are UNIQUE!
Gender-neutral clothes? We see the best in both styles and realize that style shouldn't make who we are. In the end we will be the ones fighting for equality, we will be the ones who understand, you should be proud and never question it... take advantage! Use it in your acting, your sports. Use the female side, where it is most strong, and your male side to enhance yourself, push yourself a little more.
All that you're feeling, it just means that you have a bigger heart than most others, and you might feel put down because of the awkwardness of being different from everyone else, but however you described you were feeling, that's what's beautiful about you and when you realize this, i bet you will want to help people feel beautiful in what they do to.
Sorry for the long answer, but i recognized myself in you... you will go places beautiful.
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I love your answer. It was extremely helpful! Thanks so much!
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