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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. lately I've been feeling like he's holding me back.
I've always wanted to travel and do things with my life. I never wanted to be the settle down get married and have kids type. Right now I work 50 hours a week, I'm barely scraping by. I'm 21 and I haven't done anything with my life at all.
My boyfriend has just graduated college. He lives with me and doesn't have a job, and I'm supporting him, paying all the rent and bills and food and all that. So I can't afford to go out with friends and stuff. Which, for him is totally ok, becuase he's the type that likes to stay in and watch movies.
I just feel that if I stay with him, I'm stuck with this boring life forever. But I do love him for his humor, his personality, his intelligence, the sex is great, and many other things. He is a really great guy. I'm afraid that I've been with him for so long that I've gotten comfortable and wouldn't know how to be with anyone else.
I'm just so lost right now and I don't think this little explanation does it justice. I don't know what to do. Any and ALL feedback would be great.
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I've read carefully your explanations and there are three solutions that will solve your problem. All you have to do is pick one of them. Just to warn you though they all will be quite painful but sometimes we have to change/mix some things up to allow greater things to come.
1.Stay with your boyfriend and continue with the boring life that you've got used to.
2.Leave him behind and reach out to your dreams which in my opinion is far more important than having a partner who is so unsupportive because let's be honest if he was a mature partner he would let you to achieve your life long ambitions.
3.Talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling. Tell him that these goals of yours are important to you. Basically give him a chance to try and stand on his own legs. If he doesn't than either stay with him or leave him (I would leave but that's just me).
Hope that I've helped.
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Thanks for the clear cut perspective. This helps a lot.
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