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Hi, 20/f. I was engaged in my previous relationship. He was 19/f and we was together for two years. He left me one week before Christmas of 2012 because he randomly became "unhappy". It's been six months and I think about him every single day. First thought in the morning, last at night. After three months of breaking up, I got invited by a friend to one of his parties and a couple of weeks later we were 'fuck' buddies. Stupid I know, but I missed his touch, kisses, ect. I learned my lesson the hard way because now we act like we do not know each other. He has made it very very clear that he has not missed me since he left, doesn't have feelings for me, ect.
Since we've been broken up, he has been with different women, sexually, not relationship wise. I was his first, if that makes sense?
So I guess he hasn't had a feel of what it is alike to be alone. I, on the otherhand, have not been with any other guy since we split, I just don't feel right. I don't have any interest in looking for a "boyfriend".
Well, 3 months ago, about 3 weeks after we stopped fooling around/communicating his roommate found my picture under his pillow along with a note I wrote him back in 2010. He swears up and down that it was his 'final' closure, which may be true; but when he's sober he talks negative about how he feels for me; but when he's drunk, its all positive and stuff. Confusing, ugh.
I know we are NOT getting back together, but for some reason my heart refuses to believe it. It's ridiculous. I'm so so scared that I will never get over him because of how much it still stings, and I think of him. When someone tells me about him and a new girl, I do get a little jeaous but it quickly goes away because my heart kinda knows it won't work out, because the girl isn't me. My gut and my heart keeps telling me we are meant to be, and he needs time to know what its like to be single because he doesn't really know what its like..?
But then again, Im trying to convience myself its really over; but its not working. I have prayed to God to give me a sign, and NOT LYING WHEN I SAY THIS, every time I pray, I always have a dream that my ex shows up at my door saying he made a mistake and he is sorry. But when I don't pray, I do not have any dreams of him. It's kinda weird??
I know if he was to come back, I should say no because I feel like alot of damage and time has passed and been done, but when I think about it, my heart feels full and I just wanna cry tears of joy.
I know time heals all, but I'm so scared I will NEVER get over him. I truely loved him to pieces, and he randomly leaves claiming he never thought about or missed me since before he left.
Help?
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Okay, so I did take the time to read all that :)
I believe in a 6th sense, especially when it comes to love. I think that you're dreams are manifesting the fact that you miss him and need him back in your life, yet you are still conflicted. Your dreams could also be predictive of his feelings, or maybe even that he will show up at your door. It isn't like he cheated on you, or things ended too badly, right? I'm sure he probably feels the same way towards you, but he's a guy, so he doesn't know the right thing to do just yet. I think the fact that he kept your picture means that he's obviously having a hard time letting go of you and what you both had together, meaning there is still a chance of love & togetherness for you two as a couple. I wish you the best of luck, truly, and I hope that whatever happens ultimately ends in you being happy. Hope I helped some :-)
~Miss Holly~
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thank you so much holly! your advice kinda helped lol. you gave me hope that i know i shouldnt have. i guess because of all the times i asked he always tells me hes over me and never loved me the way i loved him. but if he does come back, great. if not, i hope ill get over him soon.
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