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Hi. So I'm 13 and I'm a normal girl from Singapore. I have no idea how I'm going to go about expressing my problem, but here it is: I have tutoring classes in the weekends that I have been skipping for three weeks, without my mum's knowledge. Moreover, I have tickets to a concert I'm going to with my friends. It costs $218 and I don't have enough money to pay for it. I have told my mom about this before and she flared up and said that I cannot go for the concert. Thus, now, I'm not going for the concert, and I haven't told my friends yet. Does anyone have advice on this matter? My mom found out yesterday that I have been skipping classes and she's obviously angry, saying that (and I quote) "Four lessons can pay for your tickets to the concert!" (Yeah, I don't understand too) please leave some advice.

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You are certainly not a bad teenager!!! Please, I used to do crazier things then that when I was 13!!! If anything you are certainly a normal teenager, and you have a strong will within you, even if you don't see it yet!

There are two things you can do. Write a letter to your mom, and stick it under her pillow or something, apologizing. You'd be surprised how mom's fall for that. Don't write anything bad, or try to make it seem like it wasn't your fault, but just be sincere and apologize, and tell her thank you for her concern and you know she loves you (totally corny, but it does seem to warm a mothers heart). She's just worried for your future, and yes that can be the most annoying thing in the world, but trust me it's a mom thing. So apologizing, and starting to go back to those darn tutoring sessions, is probably one step in the right direction. Not only will it help the relationship with your mom, but it will help yourself, and maybe even getting what you want in the future :)

About the concert... Talk to your mom negotiate, ask her if there is anything you can do for her, or if you can do chores for a week, or something she needs in exchange for concert tickets. If your mom still says no, even after the letter, and the negotiations, then you must fess up to your friends tell them you thought you could win her over, but she's not gonna let you go. You have every right to be angry about it, but there will be many more concerts, and experiences with your friends. She and you both know it's only a matter of time before you start doing your own things, and having the cash to buy your own concert tickets, so don't worry, things always have a way of working out, even if we have to work really hard for them too.

Best Wishes & Good Luck!!!

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(Rating: 5) Thank you for your help! I found out what she meant about the lessons and that is that they are expensive. pretty much i skipped lessons that cost as much as the concert! I didn't have ANY idea how expensive the lessons were and now I feel really bad about all of this. I didn't go to the concert. After I found out how much money I threw away by skipping out on the lessons, I didn't even feel like going anymore.

Thank you for the BEST ADVICE EVER! It will help when I need to work things out with my mom in the future.

Don't ever stop giving advice! You have a gift for making things easy to understand and I thank you again!
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