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19/F
First of all thank you for whom is reading this. I go to school part time and just got a new job. I'm trying to figure out myself and just deleted my Facebook because I feel as if it is a distraction. I feel empty, and it's normally when I'm not talking to a guy. I don't know why I feel this way. My last two boyfriends started as one night stands. One lasted a year, the other one two years. I can't seem to take a relationship slow either. Is it just my hormones? I feel like it's wrong to have sex with multiple people but lately I've been wanting to. Most of my friends are guys as well. I use to have an alcoholic problem but I've been a lot better. I just don't understand why I'm so addicted to guys.

Hello!!

Sometimes I find myself feeling empty, so your not alone! The first thing is, it's okay to like guys!! You're 19, and young, and everyone's sexual passion is different. Some people are cereal monogamists, and some people are the committing type. But at 19 your hormones are raging, they're screaming you to reproduce (whether that's your plan, or not) The real question you should ask yourself is, are your habits with guys hurting yourself, or anyone around you. Anything in extremes can be harmful to yourself. If you are feeling empty without sexual passion you might want to try to search deep inside yourself for what will fill that void up. Sometimes when I'm alone, and feel empty I say to myself before I go to bed, "you're perfect, you're wonderful you're worth it, and you're not alone". Loving yourself, and maybe even telling yourself, "I love you." Are techniques and methods that can be used, specifically when someone is out of a relationship. You yourself can only find a healthy way to fill your feelings of a void inside you, but I promise that truly loving yourself, for all your faults, and perfections will help you at least for that moment. To maybe fight the addiction I would suggest using substitutes, such as getting involved in something that sparks as much passion as you have for guys. It could be work related, school related, even if someone in your family had a baby recently, you could help them out one day (mothers are always grateful for an extra set of hands), do something outside of your own feelings, that helps someone else. 9 out of 10 times, about how much helping others can really help you discover yourself. Stay close to some girlfriends you can really trust! And be proud of yourself!! You realized there was something in your life you needed to handle instead of ignoring it! Congrats :)
I'm not saying this will fix what's really going on completely, but I hope it will at least give you some insight.

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