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15/f
So, there's a guy that I'm friends with that I've known for about 4 years, but we weren't really friends till a couple months ago. He randomly started messaging me on Facebook, then he pulled the "I'm getting off Facebook, what's your number?" stunt, so I have him my number (we're friends). This was a week ago, and now he texts me every single day, from the hour after school gets out till he goes to bed. I don't mind the texting, cuz I enjoy talking to him. I like him, but only as a friend. Anyway, he has been sending VERY flirtatious texts, and has told me multiple times that I'm sexy and very attractive, and that I'm his type. I've just said thank you. Then, he's asked me if he's attractive back, and I didn't want to be mean so I said yes (he IS attractive, I just don't like him that way) He's been flirting with me over text, and I've been unintentionally flirting back, but I haven't explicitly said anything about liking him.
Tonight, when he was going to bed and saying goodnight, he said that he liked me. However, it was in a longer text, so I sort of ignored that part and just filled my response with a bunch of "hahahahas" and ;). The thing is, this guy is pretty cute and he's really nice and smart, and I probably would go out with him, except there's another guy that I'm really good friends with that I have a massive crush on. I don't want to go out with the one that likes me because I like the other guy. Basically, I dont want to give this guy a chance in a relationship because then the guy I like will think I'm not interested.I'm certain this guy will mention that he likes me again, over text. How do I say I don't like him? And how do I respond to his flirty texts without flirting back? Thank you!

I have been in a situation where a guy had gotten the wrong impression because I would come over to use his air hockey table. Boys can be really dense sometimes, especially if they like someone. They want to believe so bad that the other person feels the same way. The best thing for you to do it stop the winking, the flirting, cool off for a while. If he texts you, try to keep it as platonic as possible. Then you have to be honest and say, you know I enjoy speaking to you, and I consider you a great friend, but I don't want to lead you on because you're a great person! I like you as a friend, but I don't see it going farther then that. I'm sorry, but you deserve honesty, and that's honestly how I feel. It's really easy to unintentionally give someone the wrong impression, so just be really clear with him! If he's mature he'll get over it, and you can move on to the boy you have a massive crush on, but remember it's not your fault you feel a certain way, and there isn't really much you can do about it, except try to be mature and honest. It's okay if you feel bad, but you can't let that stop you from not only being honest with him, but being honest with yourself :)

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