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Q: Hi.. I'm 12 years old, female.

So yesterday, I got done eating and I asked my OWN dad for some gum. Then, he said "It's all 'candy candy candy gum gum gum' with you. " That's when I just wanted to cry.

And that's not all. Kids at school call me names too. I told them and all they did was tell them to stop - they didn't!! I told them again and they said "Well they should express their facts and opinions". I told my mom and she didn't care. They can't move me to another school.

I've been counting my calories for over a year now. On the app I had, I set it for 1200 calories I eat.. I may drop it down to just 1000.

My calves are fat, my chin is fat, my butt is fat, my stomach is fat (I seriously have to suck it in), my cheeks are fat.. Pretty much it. I hate my body and I want to go anorexic. Yeah, yeah anorexia is bad for your body but it will be better for me! I'm thinking about starving myself..
Hi,I'm just gonna be honest with you.
I was your age to,when everything started.
The self-mutilation,the eating disorder,and the depression,and everything else.
I know how you feel,and I know it's easy at all.
And two years later,I'm fourteen,and even though I'm getting better,I still struggle with it.
I used to be just like you were.I would be afraid of drinking water,because I felt it would make me fat.
But,even though I know you don't wanna hear it,I'm gonna tell you that it isn't good for you.
Sure,it may seem like it helps,which it does.But it does more harming than helping.
But please promise me something.
That you'll think about the consequences first.
And believe me,your very beautiful,even if you may not feel like it.Sometimes you just have to ignore all the hate.
Because there's a quote I love by ALbert Einstein : "Everyone's a genius,but if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree it'll live it's whole life believing it's dumb."
That can apply to your situation also.
If you let people constantly judge you by your lookes,or call you things like "fat",and other things,you'lll start to believe it.
But there's a challenge that's advised to girls to try.
Stand in the mirror,and find at least ten things about yourself that you love.But you can't leave until you find ten things.
I've lost all my friends because I let my eating disorder take over.I also am not as close to my family as I used to be,because I didn't go get help.
One song,that applies is called Courage by Superchik.
Please just know that your not alone,and there's other like me who knows what your going through,and still struggling with it also.
If you ever need help,or just want to chat,inbox me,and i'll give you my e-mail.
But also remember that if you succumb to an eating disorder like I did,the eating disorder becomes more than just an illness,it becomes who you are.

Love,Jazz x.

Thanks Jazz :) I'll be sure to inbox you soon!!

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