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Age: 18
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I'm eighteen years old, and I'm basically a follower. If real life were a video game, I'd totally be a support character. I'm very good at being backup, being there for people and sacrificing my own wants or needs for theirs. I'm also very good at following orders and respecting seniority. I have been my entire life. I always think about other people first. I follow people the majority of the time. If my friends and I, say, go to the mall or something, I prefer following behind them. I don't know why, it's just how I am!
It's not to say I can't lead. I guess I'm sort of a lazy leader, in a way. If a situation arises where there are all followers amongst us, I'll take the lead if I have to. But if anyone else wants to lead I'll follow them.
A follower is always described negatively... Is it really all that bad to be a follower? I mean, without us, leaders would have no one to LEAD, right? Thanks for your time. :D (link)
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I understand perfectly where you come from. I was (or am) still like that too. 'i prefer becoming the vice president instead of the president' itself kind of thing. however instead of thinking, once a follower always a follower, its more like a follower slowly learning to be a leader. it all comes to self confidence and experience.
i am very bad at making decisions, i often thinks things in shades of grey instead of black and white and doubt my choices when i make them. so i always leave my friends to make the decisions, hence i often becomes the follower. however as your self confidence grows, your trust in the decisions you make also increase and you become less willing to follow other people's directions instead (on to becoming a leader). for example, at first i wanna go to shop A but my friends want to go to B. im too lazy to decide against or im not even sure that A is even a good shop, so we all go to B. however the next time, my friends wanna go to shop A but i am confident that B is better, so i become more confident in letting my friends know that we should go to B.
sorry if the example seems complicated.
anyway i think it should be half and half. sometimes it's great to be a follower; it's relaxing, there's no stress, you dont get ego trips and tantrums when things dont go your way. however, sometimes there are things where you have to take the lead and be assertive, otherwise people will look down and trample all over you.
be balanced.
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Ahhh, I'm glad someone can relate! Thank you very much for your well thought-out answer. I'll be sure to keep it balanced. :DD
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