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Q: I've put this under mental health, because I wasn't sure what else to : please don't get offended by that.

Now, we all know that your sexuality isn't a choice. But what determines whether you are homosexual? Nature (you are born homosexual) or nurture (your surroundings) ?

I know people who say they remember being gay forever. I know of others who turn, when they go to same-sex boarding schools. I read a book about one of the most famous all-boy schools in the world. The guy was saying how they didn't know a world outside of the school, and growing up meant they had urges. Because of this, they experimented sexually, and this is where many people 'turned'.

But is it both? Is it different for different people?

I also heard that those who lack a father figure are more likely to be homosexual. This is obviously a generalization, but is there any merit to that statement?


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OMG!!What is this guy before me thinking about?In my opinion all gay people were born homosexual,if homosexuality was due to sorrounding factors,then kids who were born in family of boxers would be straight because of the masculine influence.Or all boys raised in a family of homosexual parents would end up being gay as well;and one of my best friends is an example,and he is STRAIGHT!People who are homosexual definitely were born gay and there's nothing wrong about that.It's just a sexual orientation different from that of straight people.So the nature vs nurture question is definitely out of the question.

So then external influences will have no role?

General good answer though.

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