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NW:)
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Hi, I'm an 18 year-old female, fresh out of high school, and I've never dated anyone. Ever. Never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never been on a date even. I've been asked to a couple dances, but that's about the extent of it. And that's sort of on purpose. See, I never wanted to date anyone, firstly because most of the guys at the schools I have gone to have been complete jerks, but mostly because I'm very serious about relationships. Most middle school relationships last about a month max. Plus at the time I wanted to focus on having fun with school and friends, and sports. High school relationships have a bit more potential than middle school ones of course, but they're so drama-filled, time consuming, and just plain stressful. Plus, there's a slim chance they'll actually succeed after high school. So, I made the decision not to date anyone until college, and that was probably one of the smartest decisions I've ever made. I could just focus on growing up, focus on MY issues, and I was free to do what I wanted, when I wanted with my friends (with my parents' permission, of course, haha).
Now that I'll be in college, I'm allowing myself to date. But... I'm EXTREMELY inexperienced. So I know basically nothing about relationships. The main problem is, I'm a Christian, so I really want to save myself, my virginity, until marriage. It's just... something that I've had a long time to ponder and pray about, and it just feels like something God wants me to do. And it's something I want too, for me and my future husband. But nowadays, ESPECIALLY nowadays, that's not an easy task. We're bombarded with sex on TV, in movies and media, it's just everywhere! Even a lot of my own friends are no longer virgins. And the majority of sex is featured with non-married couples. I know it's okay to go without sex in high school, (although it's becoming increasingly uncommon), but is it the same with adult relationships? I mean, premarital sex has just become a common thing.
Basically, I just want to know if I'll be able to go out into the relationship world and not be a laughing stock who'll end up dying alone (after all, that is a huge fear of mine). >>; I mean, sex seems to be this regular activity for couples, and I don't want to be laughed at by a boyfriend when he goes to take off my pants and I tell him no. I'm prepared for that, but I want to know if it's possible nowadays to even have a successful relationship without sex. Is it possible? Do couples HAVE to have sex? Thank you for your time. :] (link)
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No,couples shouldn't have sex coz if you found a guy that wants to have sex too fast that means he wants your body not you, yes sex have been every where movies,TV shows (etc..) but that doesn't make it possible for every one and when a guy grows up and want to get married he would always want a pure girl not a used one it might take a while but that's the thing about love it takes a while but that what makes it special it could happen any where any time it just pops in the right time so just coz your friends made a lot of things that shouldn't mean you should too, you should be proud that you focused on education coz this is what will help you in life and not boy friends and all of your friends kissed dated and made everything except for focusing on what will really help them in life and dont feel odd you should feel special picture it as a mountain of pearls all used except for one glowing one in the middle YOU! now this will attract a guy's attention when it comes to real life commitment
hope it helps
NW:)
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Haha, thank you very much. It does help make me more at ease and feel like I made the right decision. Thanks a bunch! :D
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