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hey, im jane and i love helping people out with their problems even though sometimes i can't help myself and trust me i've been through a lot so i won't judge you with anything that you ask me. anyway i love giving advice to those people who need someone to tell they're problems to. so ask me a question and i'd be happy to answer. c:

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hi i'm a 17 year old female, about to be 18 in july. my boyfriend is 18, turning 19. anyways, we've had quite the past where before he was really very bad to me, lying all the time talking to other girls. but now everything is better (that happened over a year ago). but i can't seem to get over the trust issue, i try really hard but i can't help it that little things make me upset and i easily get jealous. he's in the marines so i never get to see him, and i get a little worried when he goes out to the bars with his friends, and i worry his friends will talk him into going to the club since that's something they all like to do. i'm more worried about girls going after him, than him going after someone else, but still. okay, so i kind of like to know who he's friends with on facebook, and this is my problem currently...but he added a girl i didn't like so i asked him to delete her, so he did, there was no problem. but then she magically appeared on his friends again...so i got a little ticked off, cause obviously he approved this, and i asked if he could remove her again, so he did. but now he's hiding his friends from me.. is it because i'm too controlling? or is he hiding things from me? i don't care that he has girl friends, it just depends on the girl, like some random girl i wouldn't be okay with, or a slut that i know of, or a girl who has a history of trying to ruin our relationship (she happens to fall in the last two categories) i just don't want to push him away, but i'm curious as to why he did this? i want to ask him but i don't want him to get pissy. we're usually really open, and we've been together almost 2 years now. thank you for your help! sorry for the length haha

I don't blame you for getting jealous and ticked off sometimes because he has a bad past. Anyway as you said you guys are very open with each other so maybe it's best if you be straight with him and tell him how you feel. if he gets pissy and all then let him know that your just worried that he'll be what he was before.

Also, you should just give a little trust whenever he goes out with his friends. if he really loves you i'm sure he won't do anything stupid to hurt you.

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(Rating: 5) thank you, over all i think this was the best answer to my question & i do trust him, i just don't trust girls when they're around him... i have no doubt in my mind that he loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me :)
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