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Does anyone here think that a 14-year-old girl and a 17-year-old boy can't be together? And why?
I would like to know because everyone I've asked for advice about my crush, they just had to make a comment about the age difference.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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Legally, you are going to run into some problems next year when he is 18 and you are 15. Putting that aside it isn't necessarily wrong.
I would say that your maturity level is much more important than age. A 17 year-old is usually a lot more independent than a 14 year-old. They have a car. They go to parties, etc.
I think people primarily worry that you might be pressured into things like sex, smoking, drinking, drugs, etc. by being with someone older. Ultimately it comes down to whether you are able to act responsibly.
If you aren't sexually active, the legal problem is less likely to be an issue. Even if you aren't having sex in public, there is always the possibility of a jealous neighbor, classmate, relative calling him in. Check the laws in your areas and make a responsible decision accordingly. Ultimately it's up to you and to a lesser extent your parents/guardians.
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Thank you! Finally! And yes I know I will run into some problems but I should have added that I didn't want to be with him yet, just until we get older. For many more reasons than just the one you mentioned. But either way, thank you very much, you helped on so many levels!
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