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Ok so from November-March I dated this guy named Brendan, he was my first boyfriend ever and he is really sweet and funny and a gentleman and so nice and cute and he is practically like the total package. I broke up with him in March and decided I just wanted to be friends. A week later, this guy named Ryan asked me out and I said yes because Im nice and I dont want to reject people because I know what it feels like to be rejected so I didnt wanna make him feel bad. He was kind of the player-ish type and all my friends hate him, and told me that he would only hurt me. I didnt believe my friends when I should've. I broke up with him after he started flirting and cheating on me with other girls. He thinks we're still friends like me and Brendan though =/ Brendan and I reccently started talking more and I think I might like him again, I broke his heart though and I dont want to fall for him and have him break mine. Im scared to talk to him now... =/ I already created a bad reputation by dating Ryan... Help? I want to be his friend but I think Im falling for him again.

You never should have broke in the first place with Brendan(I hope that's not his real name and if it is never put a real name online.)I think that you need to talk. Tell this Ryan were you feel you friendships is. And from how your talking I take it that you don't want to have a friendship at all so tell him that. And don't tell him in around about way.... you want to make this clear so he can let you be. Tell it nice but truthfully. If he still does not stop tell your Mom Dad or whoever you have in your life that can put him in his place. As for Brendan ask if you two can go back to girl friend boy friend.And if he ask about Ryan tell him you just did not want to make him fell rejected(by the way never go out on a date just so you well not make a guy fell rejected.You can't worry so much about other people. Just don't be rude about it.)He might want to stay just friends. A break up hurts and well take time to make it better. Just like Ryan and you if Brendan does not want to be gf bf again back off. When he want to he well make the moves... he might still be hurt by you. Hope I helped.

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(Rating: 5) I know, i regret the day I broke up with him (and I didnt use their real names). Sometimes me and Brendan joke about our relationship and how Ryan messed it up. I tell Ryan to back off and leave me alone but he knows alot of my secrets and so does Brendan but Brendan would never hurt me like Ryan does. Ryan blackmails me with stuff I've told him. I did like Ryan at the start of our relationship but after about 2 days, I realized he wasnt being himself so I wasnt liking the real him and I broke up with him a week after he asked me out. I dont want to get back together with Brendan because we have a pretty good friendship right now but I dont wanna fall for him again and we do flirt a bit but we're just really good friends is all. I know he still is kind of hurt by me but at least he's talking to me. Thanx for the help :) Btw please email me brittney.autumn@live.ca
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