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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut! (link)
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It is truly a shame that you decided to not fully take the advice. I am also very sorry that you caved into peer pressure and allowed such a thing to happen, especially in front of others, because making love to someone shouldn't be shared (unless it's ones fetish) with others. But now the thing you should do is remain calm. There are such things as phantom pregnancies, (Phantom Pregnancy, also known as psuedopregnancy : the occurrence of signs of pregnancy, such as enlarged abdomen and absence of menstruation, when no embryo is present). If you believe to be pregnant, it is entirely possible that you may show these signs.
The best way to know whether or not you are pregnant is to undergo a pregnancy test. First, go to your local dollar store, they have pregnancy tests for 1 dollar, and are quite accurate. I've bought mine from there and I've never had an incorrect reading, and buy several of them. Best bet would be to buy at least 3. This way you can properly monitor yourself. Such as taking 1 pregnancy test, once a week. And if you are still worried, you may have to speak with one of your parents about going to planned parenthood for a blood test to check your system for the hormone HGC, which is present in pregnancy, as well as an ultrasound. If it should prove that you are pregnant, then you and your parents will have to decide on what to do. Especially since you are so young. But I believe if you believe you are grown up enough to get intimate with someone, you are also grown up enough to deal with the consequences of your decisions.
Replying - I can understand why you would be afraid of telling your parents. It's no laughing joke. In the end you'll just have to get new friends, because real friends wouldn't make you do something you do NOT want to do. If you do turn out to be pregnant, I'm afraid you will have no choice but to tell your parents what happened, though in the end, it is probably best that you do whether or not you were pregnant. You don't want to end up hating yourself, and later spiraling into depression, as sometimes the end result of that is far worse. You could have gotten up and left whether they said they would never talk to you again, but I'm assuming that due to your fear, you did not, and you did what you did not wish to do. Which in essence is rape. What's even worse, your so called "friends" were accomplices in this as well. If it turns out you are not pregnant, and that's fine, but they try to do it again? Telling you to do something you don't want to do, or else they won't talk to you anymore.. That is not a life to live. You are too young to be destroying yourself physically and emotionally, especially with all the beautiful things still has yet to offer you. I've given you my advice, but it is up to you whether or not to take it or not. I'd just hate to see another girl go off degrading herself just to keep her "friends" happy. Do what makes you happy and safe.
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Um well my parents don't know and I'm to scared to tell them and I didn't want to at all! I've told him that 1000 times and I dint know what to do they were all like if you don't we won't talk to u and be your friends! Please reply
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