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Q: i have a so called mate hu is trying to split me and my bf up cuz we are happier then she is by far and tonight (11/03/2012)she sent him a text saying 'dont propose to her she will only leave u for her mate hannah' this reduced him to tears and myself too i have reasured him this isnt true but i dont know what to do bout the so called friend that has caused this pain. anyone know what i can or should do?

I would be up front with both your boyfriend and your "friend". If you and your boyfriend have had a stable relationship thus far then he should be able to listen to reason and know that you're telling the truth when you say she's just lying and trying to hurt your relationship. I would then go to her and tell her to stay out of your life and mind her own business if she can't treat you like a real friend. If you have had this kind of trouble with her before then I would definitely tell you to cut her loose for good but if this is out of the ordinary behavior, ask her why she would stoop to such a level of immaturity just to hurt you and someone you care about.

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thank you for your advice i have tried to do this but it was not successful i have had to take drastic actions and get an advice team to help sort this out as it has gone on far enough. i really am grateful for your adivce so thank you x

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