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Ok so I have a Bf and we are in a great relationship atm. But currently another guy has been talking to me on MSN. And Im on vacation and the other guy keeps saying he loves me and is asking me to dump my Bf for him. I dont know what to do because the other day, the other guy told me that he's going to kiss me and asked me if I'd kiss him back. I made the mistake of saying sure and I dont wanna cheat on my Bf since he's my first Bf. Plz help i dont know what to do!!! I dont wanna break up with my Bf but I kinda do wanna kiss the other guy (He's the player type) But my Bf isnt a kissing kind of guy, he's more of the hugging type. HELP ME!!! I need advice pronto! I like both but dont wanna break up with my Bf but wanna kiss the other guy :( HELP!!

Don't cheat on your bf. Trust me. Right now, it sounds fun and exciting and rebellious, but if you go through with it, it's not something that you'll be proud of. You'd have hurt your boyfriend, and kissed a guy who you say is player.

If he really is a player, he doesn't want to kiss you because he likes you. He might claim he loves you, but if he really loved you, he wouldn't ask you to dump your boyfriend for him. He would want you to do what is best for you, and he wouldn't put you through the emotional pain of making such a decision.

Your best bet would be to politely tell him that you're not interested anymore because you need to do what you think is best for you, and cheating on your boyfriend would make you upset.

What you SHOULD do, though, is work on your relationship with your boyfriend. All boys are kissing kind of guys, not just hugging. He just needs to practice a bit and get some confidence.

Kiss your boyfriend instead. And if you need some advice on how to get your boyfriend to be more in the kissing mood, let me know. (:

Update:

If you want to get him more in the kissing mood…

-Make it really clear that you like to kiss, and you really appreciate it when you two do kiss. Since he cares about you, he'll likely learn to like kissing more to make you happy. Maybe to make the both of you happy, start with a hug and then kiss. Or start with a kiss and then hug. Then it's a compromise.

-Make sure that when he does kiss you, you show that you really appreciate it and it means a lot to you. If you're criticizing him or pointing out what he should do while kissing, you'll make the experience something he doesn't want to repeat.

-It could be that he's not confident in his ability to kiss. Or that he's nervous. Again, compliment him so he continues to kiss you. Eventually, he'll learn and he'll improve (:

-Ask him how he wants to be kissed. Just in case he is put off by how you might be kissing him. Not all guys like the same sort of kisses, so, it could be worth asking him about.

-Don't be afraid to make the first move, but don't force him into a kiss either.

-If he's worried about not feeling comforted by it, start slow. Don't begin by making out. Start out with passionate, regular kisses.

-Kiss him hello or goodbye. Even if it's just a peck on the cheek to accustom him to the idea that you want to kiss and you like to be kissed.

Good luck! And if those don't work, I might be able to come up with some more (:

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(Rating: 5) Thanx :) My Bf always says hugs are more conforting than kisses though and can u give me more advice on how to get him in a kissing mood, Thanx ur the best :)
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