Member Since: January 24, 2012
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Last Update: January 29, 2012
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and i would say we are perfect and plan on marriage after we are done with college. I love him to death but he is breaking me and it isnt his fault at all. He has terminal brain cancer and won't be cured. Only his parents and I know, not even his brothers because he just doesnt want anyone to treat him any different. I cant talk to anyone and wont, but its like im cutting myself off from reality because i can't handle the fact. Yesterday i guess you could say he died, but was brought right back. He fell unconcious with no pulse/heartbeat. What can I do about any of this, its like iv gone mute i dont even really talk around people anymore. What do i do about him too, my life is done if he dies. Any help on anything is highly appreciated, but no i will not go to a therapist. 18/f (link)
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Wow. Pretty heavy duty stuff. First, let me say, I feel for you. That is a hell of a lot of crap to heaped upon such a young woman. Frankly, it fucking sucks. But you know that, right? I want you to think about something really carefully.
Do you love this man enough to hunker down, get real brave, and see him through?
If you don't, then you need to move on. He is asserting that he needs normalcy. If you stay, but are fucked up, it is going to affect him on a daily basis. If you leave, it will hurt first, but he will recover and hopefully find some peace before he dies. However, if you truly love him, you need to stay.
Being with him is going to be really tough some times and equally as scary, but, you can make him the happiest he can possibly be in the time he has left. I think you should talk to your friends, family, or even strangers online about what you are dealing with. You seem really strong, but a person can only take so much and hold so much in.
I won't lie, and I have been through this personally, It is going to break your heart when he dies. But, I think you will find comfort in knowing you loved him with everything you had to give. And you really don't know how long that is.
You didn't mention how much time they estimate he has, but that is a good thing.
Sometimes doctors get stuff wrong and sometimes shit happens, you never know what the future holds. I think you should stay with him and love him like crazy, but at the same time, make sure other areas of your life are full. In the event you lose him, you will have support and other reasons to get up each day, which may be really hard for awhile.
A short time of laughter, happiness, romance, joy, and connection far out weigh a long wave of the mundane.
If you need to talk, contact me. Good luck:)
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thanks :) were going to the same college next semester so itl help
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