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Q: 17/F

I lost my virginity at 15 & I've had sex with two guys. The last time I had sex was in August. (So about 5 months ago)

Anyways, the guy I've been talking to for a while went down on me the other day & I couldn't get wet. He was really good, but I feel like I just can't get turned on anymore. I feel like sex got old to me, or like the last guy I was with completely ruined it for me b/c he truly didn't care about me.

Is there anything I can do to get more turned on. Like a certain mind set or something ? I hate this..
The more you concentrate on getting turned on, the less likely it is going to happen. You need to put your mind at ease, and go with the flow. If I were you, one night, I'd get all sexy and feeling good, and initiate sex with him. That way, you'd be in the mood, and you could control the pace. During foreplay, you can try "warming yourself up", to try and get wet. It'll be good for you, because you know what you like, and it's good for him because men love to watch.

You're 17 and you've had sex with 2 men. Sex hasn't gotten old, it's just starting! :)

And about the last guy ruining sex for you; forget him. If you think he ruined sex for you, he probably wasn't that great of a guy. You need to appreciate the connection that you have with this new guy and embrace it. Also, if it helps, remember that everytime you have a good sexual connection with your new man, you're pushing your ex further into the past!

Good luck =]

Thanks ! (:

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